harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #51  January 28,2012, 1:51pm
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I wonder if he realizes how unsexy his behavior is.
 
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #52  January 29,2012, 12:00pm
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Rise wrote :
I also believe friendship is the best basis for a lasting relationship.
If you introduce sex too early then the intense feelings that come from that mask whether or not you two have a strong connection as friends first, something you may find out later once the relationship is no longer being carried along by the sex.
I disagree. You can be making the "friendship" connection along the same time as having the physical connection. Personally, I would not want a relationship without both.

"Friends first" is laughable in my experience and doesn't work. I've got plenty of friends. Friends are not someone I want a physical relationship with, and that aspect is essential to a full relationship with a romantic partner. I've never had sex feelings overshadow the romantic/deep friendship connection with a mate. I want a lot more than "friends" from my romantic relationships. The "friendship" part of those relationships is much, much deeper than it is with most of my regular friends. In a romantic relationship you can tell each other your innermost thoughts, your deep, dark secrets, your greatest joys, and you can seal those discussions with a kiss... and more.

Besides, I would much rather find out whether we're sexually compatible earlier rather than later. It is such an essential part of a relationship that it would be awful to spend months being "friends first" and then find out he was lousy in bed.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I disagree. You can be making the "friendship" connection along the same time as having the physical connection.
Well said.
 
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