alchemistwizard is offline alchemistwizard Post #1  December 2,2011, 4:44pm
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I created a thread in Dating yesterday discussing the difficulties of dating while unattractive (particularly for women.) A poster suggested I create another thread to get an honest assessment of how I could improve.

So, here is my album: eHarmony Advice - alchemistwizard's Album: Pictures of Me

What can I do to be more attractive to guys?
 
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Nothing. You're beautiful.
 
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So it was all about fishing for compliments /sympathy / reassurance....now that's "ugly".....The pics look like come -ons...You'll get responses....Good Luck..
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I created a thread in Dating yesterday discussing the difficulties of dating while unattractive
 
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The black and white picture looks like a costume. (Maybe it is.) Find a more feminine way to display cleavage if you prefer that. I like the other ones, but don't use pictures you took in the mirror on your profile. Good luck.
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
So it was all about fishing for compliments /sympathy / reassurance....now that's "ugly".....The pics look like come -ons...You'll get responses....Good Luck..
That's what I thought as well.

Don't ever use a self-portrait in a mirror, or with a visible camera or cell phone. That is probably the number one pet-peeve in profile pictures.
 
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I'll have to agree with Steve on this.

Additionally, I suggest you work on your self esteem and figure out why you don't see your own value and why you have the need to get validation by finding guys who desire you. Until this gets tweaked, you will have difficulty with romantic relationships.
 
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Lol..true....I can only imagine the constant..."how do look?"..."does this make me look fat?"..."is she hotter than me?"...etc.....that is sure to follow.....Insecurity and vanity...no matter the pictures....are a turn-off....
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While you aren't a supermodel, you certainly aren't ugly. However, my sense is that you don't want the opinion of a 5'7" guy.

And that is probably where your problem lies...
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
While you aren't a supermodel, you certainly aren't ugly. However, my sense is that you don't want the opinion of a 5'7" guy.

And that is probably where your problem lies...
Projecting much?
Last edited by Faraday; December 3,2011 at 7:01am. Reason: need to drink the coffee sitting next to me...
 
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Are you kidding me? You are not ugly! I was expecting to see some homely girl and you are a lovely young lady.
My advice:
(1) Ditch the picture with your cleavage showing.
(2) Work on your self confidence.
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