Faraday is online now Faraday Post #11  December 3,2011, 7:10am
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alchemistwizard wrote :
I created a thread in Dating yesterday discussing the difficulties of dating while unattractive (particularly for women.) A poster suggested I create another thread to get an honest assessment of how I could improve.

So, here is my album: eHarmony Advice - alchemistwizard's Album: Pictures of Me

What can I do to be more attractive to guys?
You're a pretty girl. You have a nice figure...it's all in your head.

Ditch all of the pictures that you have up right now. Do you have friends with cameras? Half my friends are amateur photographers now that cameras are so cheap. I tell my friends to take pictures of me for my profile lol. If they know why they're taking your picture then they'll do their best to make you look your best And smile! Look warm and kind in your photos.

I'm a strong advocate of eye liner lining the entire eye. When I started doing that- guys stopped calling me cute and started calling me hot. Try it

I really do think in your case, it's your self esteem. No one wants to date someone that doesn't value themselves or know their worth. For this, I advise faking it until you make it Good luck.
 
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LongLocks wrote :
Are you kidding me? You are not ugly! I was expecting to see some homely girl and you are a lovely young lady.
My advice:
(1) Ditch the picture with your cleavage showing.
(2) Work on your self confidence.
All the best,
Tammy
I think she's one of the women who can look sweet enough to pull off a cleavage shot, if the colors she wears are soft and not harsh, and her expression is right. She'll have to experiment, because it's difficult to do.
 
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youre cute

if i had one suggestion it would be to grow your hair long. oh and get new "friends"
 
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Good advice thus far. I would add that if you do see yourself as "ugly," you might consider the possibility that you have body dysmorphic disorder. (I recommend googling for information.)
 
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Nanette wrote :

if i had one suggestion it would be to grow your hair long.
Yes. This too. Long hair makes a HUGE difference.
 
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Your pictures are okay and you look great. Like one poster said I think you should dress a little more feminine. But don't go showing off body parts, coming fro ma guy, I will not even thing about dating that woman.
 
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Constant reassurances about "Am I pretty?"..."Do I look ugly?"....may be the first clue:
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I would add that if you do see yourself as "ugly," you might consider the possibility that you have body dysmorphic disorder.
Attention getting may be the main goal...more so than finding a relationship...and more skin, parts etc. will get her that.
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But don't go showing off body parts, coming from a guy, I will not even thing about dating that woman.
 
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Attention getting may be the main goal...more so than finding a relationship...and more skin, parts etc. will get her that.
I think that's what she needs right now. She can look for a relationship after she's decided that she's worth one.
 
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Faraday wrote :
Yes. This too. Long hair makes a HUGE difference.
Not always.
 
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Not always.
It does if you don't have striking features. You can have striking hair instead and most men will never figure that out.
 
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