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I met this french/armanian man about a month ago. He works as a service tech and travels a lot. We went on one date where we had dinner and watched a movie. We then began to see one another. When he is back in town our days spent together are at his place with no other real going out. Being that he is so tired from travling I understand and just enjoy his company. He is really quiet and extreamly passave almost making me feel like he really doesnt care. But, Lately I have noticed that when he is in town he doesnt seem to want to spend quality time with me. His reasoning is because he is so tired sometimes he likes to be at home alone. I question his actions and feelings for me and when I do he gets upset. Never dating someone from another country, I am not sure if his ideals and ways of thinking is different from things here in america. I really like this guy but now am unsure if he feels the same. There is a big communication problem sometimes when dealing with certain situations which is why i am a little confused about what to do here... Right now we are on a break from things and he is unsure if a relationship with me is what he really wants because of a comment I made about spending more time with me when he is in town. Is he really just not interested or does it have something to do with his culture?
 
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #2  November 24,2011, 2:05am
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This was a brief booty-call encounter..... he is tired of it and has moved on...as you should... "it is over" is the same in any language /culture:
l'histoire d'amour est terminée...........Move on ....and Good Luck...
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When he is back in town our days spent together are at his place with no other real going out.
Right now we are on a break from things and he is unsure if a relationship with me is what he really wants because of a comment I made about spending more time with me when he is in town.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  November 24,2011, 6:05am
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Attempting to intuit someone's motives is both futile and pointless.

What matters is whether you are content with the relationship. You aren't, and that's all that matters.

If you like the person enough, some attempt to negotiate for a better situation is probably worthwhile - though this is a set of attributes I would probably take a hard line on, and be prepared and expecting to end it.
 
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Unfortunately, whatever mild interest he had is no longer there. You are right to think about potential cultural differences. In this case he has made his disinterest abundantly clear, hence your break after you questioned spending more quality time together.

It's time to start looking for a man who is willing to invest time getting to know you, and who will look forward to spending time with you.

Best of luck!
 
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jennafoofoo wrote :
...Right now we are on a break from things and he is unsure if a relationship with me is what he really wants because of a comment I made about spending more time with me when he is in town. Is he really just not interested or does it have something to do with his culture?
no, "we" is wrong he's on a break from you.

he's not unsure of having a relationship with you. he's trying to manipulate you into relaxing your standard (a two way relationship) so you'll continue to see him but on his terms ie. when it suits him.
 
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I agree with all the above posts. I think your more interested in the chase at this point. You want something, that you cant have. I think you already know the answers to the questions you are asking and do not want to admit it to yourself. This man is no longer interested in you, for whatever reason. As much as it may hurt, you need to move on. I think your using the culture thing as an excuse. Happy Thanksgiving.
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
This was a brief booty-call encounter..... he is tired of it and has moved on...as you should... "it is over" is the same in any language /culture:
l'histoire d'amour est terminée...........Move on ....and Good Luck...
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If you prefer to gauge people based on national stereotypes, ask yourself if the French are known for the lack of passion, intensity and attention they shower on the ones they love.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Attempting to intuit someone's motives is both futile and pointless.

What matters is whether you are content with the relationship. You aren't, and that's all that matters.

If you like the person enough, some attempt to negotiate for a better situation is probably worthwhile - though this is a set of attributes I would probably take a hard line on, and be prepared and expecting to end it.
This is excellent advice!
 
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Anyone who keeps you waiting around is not worth waiting for. As they say, "Never make someone your priority, when they only make you an option."
 
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