InsightAU is offline InsightAU Post #1  November 19,2011, 10:22pm
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First off let me say that I am not a very experienced dater. I haven't had much relationship experience so I don't have a deep well to draw from.

Here's my story: I recently moved to a new job (I'm a teacher)and started attending a church in town. I joined the choir because I like to sing and it's a way to be involved at church very informally. It's also a great way to actually see the people of the church without awkward conversation points at first. But I did start to get to know a few people and heard that some girl had been asking interestedly about the new guy in choir. I'm the only new guy to choir so I was flattered.

Anyway, one Sunday I was in the choir loft looking out over the crowd and noticed this very pretty girl really enjoying the songs (smiling and moving her hands). She just really caught my eye. I tried not to stare but probably did anyway. I just thought it was great that someone in the congregation was having such a good time singing and worshiping. Didn't really think much of it. She just stood out in the crowd.

Cut to two weeks later... I head into Sunday school and the same girl was there in the class (I hadn't been in a few weeks because I had been visiting my Dad on Saturdays to help him work on his farm and driving back on Sunday mornings for choir). I sat behind her but was late to class so I didn't have anytime to say anything because we leave class early to pick up song books for service. I noticed she didn't have any rings on her hand (which looked like she probably chewed her nails but they were cute hands :-) ) and she hadn't been sitting with a guy in church so I started to think she might actually be single. I still thought she was way out of my league.

Now cut to a Wednesday night choir practice later... I walk in, get my book and look over to see this same girl sitting in choir. She hasn't been to practice before from what I can decifer. She seemed to know people though and people knew her (and I'm still learning people names) so again didn't think too much of it. Probably looked her way a little too much again.

It just seems to me that with the church not having many single people in it that i can tell (we dont have a singles sunday school class, it's kind of a catch all class) and hearing about some girl asking about the new guy in choir and this girl catching my eye and then starting to show up everywhere. Could she be trying to put herself in my path for me to notice her? In which case it is working. Or am I just overthinking things?
 
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I don't think it should matter to you if she went out of her way or not. What matters is that you noticed her. If you're interested, you should talk to her.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
I don't think it should matter to you if she went out of her way or not. What matters is that you noticed her. If you're interested, you should talk to her.
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I just overthinking things?
 
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InsightAU is offline InsightAU Post #4  November 20,2011, 6:09pm
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Thanks for the advice and sorry for the wall of text. Here's another question... I'm 31 and I think this girl might be a lot younger than me (20 or 21). I know people think I'm a lot younger than I am (most think I'm 26 or 27). Should this even be an issue in my mind at this point?
 
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If she is under 21, her parents might care. Otherwise, it may not matter. What matters is your compatibility.
 
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The age thing shouldn't be an too much of an issue, but as others have said if she's under 21, her parents might care especially with this being a church setting.

Just go talk to her. Don't over think it. Strike up a conversation and go from there.
 
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Immerito is offline Immerito Post #7  November 25,2011, 8:19am
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Just talk to her. "Hello, I'm _______. What's your name?"

Let it flow naturally from there.
 
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