Is it okay to go on a date with a female escort


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longbeach225 is offline longbeach225 Post #1  November 1,2011, 10:01pm
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I heard several guys did this and I’m thinking of joining the group because I can’t find anyone. I never been on a date because it seems like no one gives me the chance, and I feel dates are too challenging for me to accomplish and I’m at the borderline of just giving up. I know I’m still young (25 years old) but years fly and before you know it I will be 30 years old and still remain single and never experience a single moment of romance. It’s becoming frustrating as time goes one and all my friends are in relationships and said their life is great as well as their sex life. Maybe that is why I been stressful because the lack of intimacy and my body is telling me to be intimate with someone. It’s hard to get dates when you’re too nervous to ask girls out, I’m even nervous to strike up conversation with girls. I always expect the girl to come to me first and that is how I met a few girls but it never went anywhere. Since I find this so difficult I feel I have no other options but just to pay for intimacy with an escort. Most people would say wait till the right person but you must realize how extremely difficult it is for me to get a date and trying to form a relationship will be even harder. So likely there will never be a right person anyways with my level of difficulty. And its very hard to meet girls in college and most people say that is a great place to meet girls, I disagree.
 
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First of all, it's not a 'date' if you are paying her by the hour.

Secondly ...poor guy, everything is so *hard* and nothing is being *handed to you* ...someone needs to call a waahhhh-mbulance for you!

If you wanna go get an 'escort' or a 'street girl', go do it ...just realize that it isn't going to change your situation in any way - other than your financial situation, for the worse - but when the pants get zipped up, you are still going to be in the same boat on the same river and still no paddles.

You are only a victim for as long as you think you are. No one is going to change the situation around you ...except for you.
 
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See if it's legal in your area and watch out for diseases.
Dating is too much of "a challenge"?
Seriously, are you waiting for normal girls to walk up to you and "relieve your stress"?
longbeach225 wrote :
I feel dates are too challenging for me to accomplish

I been stressful because the lack of intimacy and my body is telling me to be intimate with someone.

I always expect the girl to come to me first and that is how I met a few girls but it never went anywhere.

I have no other options but just to pay for intimacy with an escort
 
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longbeach225 wrote :
And its very hard to meet girls in college and most people say that is a great place to meet girls, I disagree.
Wow, things must've really changed since I went to college. I must be a relic.
 
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Wow, things must've really changed since I went to college. I must be a relic.
That truck does appear to have some years on it.

LongBeach, you can't "expect" girls to just come walking up to you; it ain't gonna happen.

You have to work on your confidence; girls like confidence. Is there some trusted friend or female relative could help you with that?

Barring that, you have to make an effort to speak with as many people as you can (both sexes, all ages)...in any situation you find yourself in, much as it pains you to do it.

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Can any of the guys recommend a book or movie for him? I don't think all the chick books and movies I know are going to be much help. The Game? Or something like that?

I would strongly advise against hiring a prostitute. If you do use condoms...but if I was dating someone and he mentioned he had used that kind of service...yuck. And like others have posted, once she leaves, you'll still be in the same boat. Stepping up your game, learning to initiate conversations and pursue women is how you will get the companionship you seek. It's not easy for anyone. Dating is awkward in the beginning. You could sign up for online dating...even something free that younger people are using like PoF, it might help...practice makes perfect.

Have you heard of fleshlights? If you're just needing another way to get off...that could work while you're improving your approaching techniques.
 
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longbeach225 wrote :
And its very hard to meet girls in college and most people say that is a great place to meet girls, I disagree.
Since you are 25 I'm thinking you are not in college but in grad school? If that's the case yes, it's a different vibe than undergrad, there are still a lot of women around to interact with. If you are in college but maybe a community college, then I imagine it might be harder since people are commuting and more on the go and not just hanging out in each other's dorm rooms. But for whatever reason you are having a hard time- I get it.

It sounds weird to say, but I think you need to read some PUA stuff on flirting, building attraction, etc. Not because I believe that is how you will eventually pull a quality woman (it's likely not), but because it may help break you out of your shell and experience a little success with flirting. It will help you get over your fear of interacting with women, and I think that's your biggest issue right now.

You can always see a 'professional' if you like, but afterwards not too much about your situation will have changed. It won't help you build your confidence since you'll know you paid her. Do things that will help build you up over the long run.
 
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As I posted in other threads, DON'T GO ON DATES
A date (by definition) is filled with "do this and you will get that" (good ol B.F. Skinner trash). Test after test demonstrate that tasks done for explicit reward reasons cause the mind to "tunnel vision" on the "reward", thereby stifling creativity. Additionally, doing "A" (paying for dinner?) to get "B" (the kiss) makes "A" a less desirable task.

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DON"T GO ON DATES
Find someone to do fun stuff with, the Love will follow. If Love does not follow, at least you had fun.
 
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olneyjeeps wrote :
As I posted in other threads, DON'T GO ON DATES
A date (by definition) is filled with "do this and you will get that" (good ol B.F. Skinner trash). Test after test demonstrate that tasks done for explicit reward reasons cause the mind to "tunnel vision" on the "reward", thereby stifling creativity. Additionally, doing "A" (paying for dinner?) to get "B" (the kiss) makes "A" a less desirable task.

Once again,
DON"T GO ON DATES
Find someone to do fun stuff with, the Love will follow. If Love does not follow, at least you had fun.
I'm not sure that's good advice, especially if you make a point of telling her it's not a date. Dating shows intent and makes it less likely that you wind up in the friend zone.
 
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You shouldn't consider paying for an escort to be dating either. That will only skew the way you look at women forever.
 
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