Is it okay to go on a date with a female escort


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theluvmonkey is offline theluvmonkey Post #21  November 24,2011, 12:54pm
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After I got through reading all the replies on this thread I will not do this. I will try my hardest instead to find a real person to be stable with rather pay someone to date me. I was never going to do the deed with a escort but just to get dating experience. Like how it is to take a girl out to dinner that kind of thing and hold hands.

Ok, I'm going to go in the opposite direction with you here. The hardest thing about reading ANY of these posts is that half the people are still so jaded that they stop thinking outside the box.

First, a little education because most people don't know the difference between a woman on a street corner and an escort. It's a sad stereotype.
A SW is a prostitute, a sex worker, a trick. Usually a drug addict working for a pimp. When most people think of an escort, this is what they picture. It couldn't be further from the truth.

Then you have your backpage advertisers. These are one step above the girl on the corner. this is not what you're looking for. The level of safety goes up a little, but you're not going to learn anything from this group.

Then you have the escort/courtesan. These are independent professional women bringing down the big bucks. It's all business, and they are good at it. And I'm not talking about sex. They are masters in the art of going on a date. You're paying for time. The only difference is that you don't have to deal with any drama. Their focus will be completely on you. You won't hear about past dates, ex boyfriends, money issues, or psycho drama from a bad childhood.

You're idea isn't bad, you just need to educate yourself and set some strong boundaries. Keep in mind you're getting dating advice on dating website, so basically everyone posting is struggling in a relationship (except for the luvmonkey).

Here's what you need to know. Corner girls are out, they are a definite no. You're looking for an escort or a courtesan, someone who can separate sex from a date.

You're going to have to seek one out, it's not like they advertise heavily.

You're also going to need to be upfront and honest about what's going on. An escort will go out on a date with you, but YOU have to KNOW it's ALL BUSINESS. She's not going to fall in love with you, it's not going to go anywhere. as long as YOU know not to expect anything you'll be fine.

Plan on spending some money. An escort/courtesan is going to set you back $250-$800/hr. and that's the same rate if you're at baskin robbins eating ice cream or watching a movie. If you go lower than that, then you're leaning more towards having just a sexual encounter as opposed to a dating experience.

I'm fully expecting to get a backlash of evil replies from folks, but you need to have all the information to make a decision.

A true escort/courtesan can give you all the confidence you need to conquer the dating world. The best part is they won't play with your heart or your head.

PM me for information that you'll need. btw, for all the uneducated haters who lump everyone in a category, you're more likely to get an STD from a civvie than an escort. A proper escort does everything covered all the time. A civvie is more likely to have unprotected sex with an unknown partner.

Just keep in mind that you're only 25, and dating in all of it's splendor is still going to lead to heartache. You have your whole life ahead of you, so just relax and live your life to the fullest, and someone will come along and find you attractive for who are are.

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longbeach225 wrote :
And its very hard to meet girls in college and most people say that is a great place to meet girls, I disagree.
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Wow, things must've really changed since I went to college. I must be a relic.
I think this experience varies quite a bit based on personalities, and probably also by specific college, among other things. I have personally found it way easier to attract and date women in my 30's (mostly online, though not entirely) than it ever was for me as a college undergrad.

Back on topic: I don't morally see anything "wrong" with use of escorts or anything else that happens between consenting adults. The problem is that the law doesn't agree with me on this issue in much of the U.S., and because it's illegal it is dangerous. For one thing, if you're engaged in an illegal transaction you have no recourse if you're ripped off, robbed, or physically harmed. You can be sure there are criminals out there who know this and take advantage of it. Also, illegal businesses tend to be tied to other illegal businesses, including many that I most certainly do find morally objectionable (such as human trafficking).
 
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Going on a date with an escort is going to cost you money and be of limited benefit. The escort's job is to make you feel like you're fascinating and desirable, not to give you an unbiased opinion on how to perfect your dating skills. You'll never be certain that the feedback you're getting is genuine. And if you're the sort of man who pays for sex, many women you might be interested in dating for real won't give you the time of day if that fact becomes known.
 
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