kawaii88 is offline kawaii88 Post #1  January 3,2011, 2:45pm
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I'm probably just jumping to the gun here thinking somebody lost interest real quickly. I was on a dating website (first time with no real info/pic up) and just joined a few days ago but I messaged a guy I thought was cute, we sent messages back and forth, really casual conversation and brief. I asked for his name and then he asked me to send a pic, so I sent him two. I see that he has last logged in 2 hours ago and yet no response? Ugh, how discouraging lol Maybe he came on and checked it real quick and didn't have a time to respond, maybe he wasn't interested, who knows right? Has anyone had that happen where they sent their photos and then nothing? This online dating thing can be brutal haha. I'll definitely wait a day (he replies 2-3 times a day) and if still no response, move on I guess.
 
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People poof online all the time when it comes to online dating sites for a variety of reasons. It could be you don't fit his type physically or it could some other reason. After all you said your exchanges were pretty casual. I think you have the right attitude to give him a day and then move on.
 
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Oh, the fun of the Internet. Sometimes I can't tell whether it's better or worse that we can see if someone has been online/looked at our profiles or not.

He very well might not be interested. It's hard to say, and the online world is unusually fluid. You don't know anything about why he joined this site, either.

Another option is that he doesn't want to write back right away lest he come off as seeming desperate--there's no perfume quite like the sweet, sweet smell of desperation.

There are any number of reasons, but you have a great attitude about the whole thing.
 
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Post your pics on your profile to avoid this kind of a thing. Other than that, realize that most of the time people will drift off and it has nothing to do with you. You have no idea what's going on in their lives, who they are seeing and how that is progressing, etc. Since you are both strangers to each other, they are not going to share either.

General rule of thumb is only pay attention to those who are actively responding and don't waste your thoughts on the rest. Don't count on anything until you've met face to face, gone out on a few dates and know that you both want to continue.
 
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Fill out a decent profile and put up the best pix you have, then this won't happen......only the ones who see / like your pic / profile will contact /respond to you. You are assuming the pic thing, maybe you weren't his type , maybe 1000 other things ...........only way to know is put some things out front.
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I'm probably just jumping to the gun here thinking somebody lost interest real quickly. I was on a dating website (first time with no real info/pic up)
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
Fill out a decent profile and put up the best pix you have, then this won't happen......only the ones who see / like your pic / profile will contact /respond to you. You are assuming the pic thing, maybe you weren't his type , maybe 1000 other things ...........only way to know is put some things out front.
Yes, but... then eH has a FC weekend and people contact me who can't see my photo, I get all excited thinking someone digs me based on my photos and profile only to find out they haven't seen my photo and then... well...
 
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Yes, but... then eH has a FC weekend and people contact me who can't see my photo, I get all excited thinking someone digs me based on my photos and profile only to find out they haven't seen my photo and then... well...
yes this is very frustrating. I was glued to my computer yesterday evening due to the amount of GC going on. Eventually I realised all except one was on a 'free' weekend.

And then when they ask you to email a photo but wont give out their phone number I find it laughable. They are the cheapskates who don't want to pay their way but expect me to email my photo to someone who I just have an email address for!


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I'm probably just jumping to the gun here thinking somebody lost interest real quickly. I was on a dating website (first time with no real info/pic up) and just joined a few days ago but I messaged a guy I thought was cute, we sent messages back and forth, really casual conversation and brief. I asked for his name and then he asked me to send a pic, so I sent him two. I see that he has last logged in 2 hours ago and yet no response? Ugh, how discouraging lol Maybe he came on and checked it real quick and didn't have a time to respond, maybe he wasn't interested, who knows right? Has anyone had that happen where they sent their photos and then nothing? This online dating thing can be brutal haha. I'll definitely wait a day (he replies 2-3 times a day) and if still no response, move on I guess.
I live by this rule.

You choose to refrain from putting a photo on your profile so you accept that you will probably get people who disappear out of complete frustration with you for not having one.

If you don't have a photo on your profile and have to send it to me then if I don't like it I will not waste any time emailing back saying "you're not my type" or "thanks, but no thank you" because you forced me to waste time going through this silly process of asking for you to email it to me. Therefore, as you've added a lot of pointless lag into my search for a relationship, I'll be equally selfish and delete you from my life if you aren't my type.

It's your responsibility to post a photo on your profile and there is no excuse for having no photo.
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