Mushy87123 is offline Mushy87123 Post #1  January 1,2011, 8:23pm
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I'm trying to date this gril at work, we have a great many thing in common,we both have a rule we live by ,by not dating people we work with.Until now I have fallen for this gril and I told her how I feel I keep getting mix signals. I have given her Flowers and candy Taken her to lunch a couple ot times, I'm to the point that I do not know what to do next or spot trying?
 
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You two are such rule breakers..

I am not a fan of office romances, and will always advise against it.

The mix signals you're getting are probably from her not being completely comfortable with dating a co-worker..

You both need to sit down and have a talk, to determine if you should or shouldn't date..
 
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Just. Say. No. No. Period. Don't do yourself the disservice. This can only end poorly. And then you're stuck with it.

The guy who's already posted agrees (I "will always advise against it."). Save yourself the trouble. I wish I had a dollar for every time I saw this situation and saw it go wrong (and it sounds like you're already headed that way). There are tons of women out there; don't fret. And avoid it all the more so if you're in *any* kind of professional field. That only increases the pain (and the likelihood you'll have to switch jobs).

Also, take a step back. I'd feel cautious if I felt I were 'falling for' anyone just based on shared work experiences.
 
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Be very careful when dipping your pen in the company ink, but if you choose to proceed make sure you know exactly what your workplace policies are for dating co-workers. Rules vary from job to job, but this is the kind of thing that could put your job on the line.
 
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Well, this is a really tricky one.

My one and only workplace relationship did not end well; I have not only left my job but I am also moving far far away. We were together 18 months and after breaking up he proposed to someone he had known for only 6 months!

Fortunately my resignation/relocation was already public knowledge, so it was evident that I was not reacting to his engagement. In fact, some people have suggested he proposed to her just to spite me for moving on

However, if I had not made the decision to move on then there is no way I could have remained at that workplace, hearing about the engagement, the wedding, seeing him and his wife at work functions, kids.....etc.

If you pursue this you have to be aware that things may go horribly wrong, leaving you (or her) searching for another job.

Having said that, my sister and brother in law met at work, have been happily married for 6 years and have 3 beautiful children. My parents also met at work (albeit in the navy!) and have been happily married for over 40 years.

So, it really comes down to how strongly you feel about this girl. Do you really think she could be "the one" or is she just someone you would like to date?

There are plenty of great people out there. It ultimately comes down to how much of a risk you think she is worth. Is she possibly worth your job?

Hope that's been somewhat helpful; it is a difficult decision.

Good luck!
 
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Sounds like you are already dating and with flowers / candy, etc. your romantic interests are pretty clear...........

So what is really the question as to what to do next ? Has she refused to go out again, or flowers and what not ?

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I'm trying to date this gril at work, we have a great many thing in common,we both have a rule we live by ,by not dating people we work with.Until now I have fallen for this gril and I told her how I feel I keep getting mix signals. I have given her Flowers and candy Taken her to lunch a couple ot times, I'm to the point that I do not know what to do next or spot trying?
 
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