messeen is offline messeen Post #1  December 25,2010, 7:17pm
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what can one do if the girl you are madly in love with is a stalker who creep ed you out to the extend that you want to both talk to her and not talk to her at the same time.since i don't want to talk to her,creates this gap between us that i hate more then anything.communication is rather impossible for us cause of the choice i made.
 
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I'm lost here. The only advice I can provide is stop being confused?

Just walk away. Don't talk to her. Just walk away.
 
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How can someone stalk you if you also share feelings? I don't mean to make light if she is threatening you or intruding on your life in a way that is unhealthy. But, if someone is truly stalking you, then you should be repulsed by this person.

I'm not speculating on this. I've had a stalker. If you express loving emotions to them, it IS NOT stalking.

So, lets clarify things. Is she just needy, clingy, shows up at your work unannounced, calls you constantly AND you talk to her. Or, does she leave scary notes on your car, tell people you have an "estranged" relationship, call at all hours of the night to tell you she loves you.

See, there is a big difference between overly aggressive and truly stalking someone.

Did you once have a relationship with her? Is this someone who just went a few steps past jealousy over you having female co-workers and friends? Or, is this someone you've never had a relationship with? Someone who invented a whole life story about the two of you?
 
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If the person is acceptable as a partner, this could (a generous hypothesis) just be fear / uncertainty on her part.

If that is the case, a clear set of expectations may be communicated. For instance, if she calls and you don't immediately return the call, she freaks out; then you state your schedule / ability to accept or return calls, while describing in unambiguous language what you will and will not accept.
 
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maybe she's not stalking the OP.
 
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I guess "stalking" and "persistent" are interchangable.
 
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