antonella is offline antonella Post #1  December 20,2010, 9:40am
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Hi everybody:
So, I've been emailing this guy ( through eharmony email) for almost a month. We usually had a break of two days between emails. He asked me to go out last week, I reply on Thursday, and I explained that I would love to, but with the holidays being so close I had a few parties from work to go to, but that I could meet him on Sunday, otherwise we could find a time and a place that works better for both of us. He never reply until Monday, he just said sorry about not getting back to me quickly and he suggested to go out early this week. I emailed him back a day later, and I suggest to go out today, I have not received any email from him.
I understand everybody has a life and is busy, but I don't understand why would he do this? twice..if he is not interested he should not even suggest to go out.
I'm very confused because I have never been in a situation like this. Should I give him another chance?
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you need to get on the phone with him and plan a date. enough with the email business.
 
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I think you are being a little too twitchy and need to give him a break. This is a crazy time of year - holidays, events, last minute work deadlines, travel, family, etc.

He suggested a meet, you did not have time, you countered, but now he does not have time. E-mailing him saying I can meet tonight.....he may not have even checked his e-mail, let alone actually have free time tonight.

Let the holiday madness die down before you worry about his lack of interest or slower response time.
 
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antonella is offline antonella Post #4  December 20,2010, 11:24am
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Hi:
Thank you both for your advice. I completely understand that the time of the year is crazy and everybody has commitments and things to do. We all work and have busy schedules.
I usually reply and suggest to meet 5 o 6 days later, considering that he might not read my email right away.
I just don't understand why not he just reply saying that he's too busy, instead of suggesting something and not replying. On previous weeks, he have emailed me saying he's at work, but he'll get back to me later on with a proper email.
I agree, If we talk again, I'll give him my phone number and we'll go from there.
THANKSSS AGAIN!!!
 
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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #5  December 20,2010, 2:13pm
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It sounds like he's trying, but given the inherent lag of email and BOTH your busy schedule, its just inevitable.

This is why emailing meets details that have not been confirmed is bad. It makes it hard to commit. It makes it hard to negotiate when the terms take days sometimes to hash out.
 
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You should at least be at the point of a phone call. The emails give both of you an excuse not to answer in a timely fashion. If you or him are truly interested, someone has to make that first move and offer up a telephone number. Otherwise, call it quits. It shouldn't be that difficult to get to the first date.
 
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