girlscout3 is offline girlscout3 Post #1  December 17,2010, 8:13pm
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I can't seem to figure out what to do when it comes to dating games. I hear mixed reviews. When I'm dating someone I like to do nice things for him. I anwer when he calls and usually make time to meet with him for a date. Do you think I would have better luck if I played games?
 
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Heh I recently got some "advice" from friends telling me to play "games" with the woman I have been dating.

They are under the impression that I'm a FWB to her. They were basically telling me to ignore her when she calls, make her want me etc.

I'm by no means an expert, IMHO be yourself. This is what I have done. I ignored the advice, I have not changed the way I act towards her and things are still going very well.

I think if you play games those are also going to be the type of people you attract.

Personally I hate playing games, we're out there for the same reason, why people can't just be straightforward with their intentions is beyond me. If you like someone tell them you like them.
 
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What do you want? If you want one night stands, easy lays, and a lot of confusion and pain... play games.

Otherwise, don't.

Realize that the guys who will end up treating you right for the long term will be driven away by game playing. Just be yourself. The right guy will be attracted to you, for who you are. If you are projecting yourself in the perspective of playing weird games, then weird guys will be attracted to you.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
What do you want? If you want one night stands, easy lays, and a lot of confusion and pain... play games.

Otherwise, don't.

Realize that the guys who will end up treating you right for the long term will be driven away by game playing. Just be yourself. The right guy will be attracted to you, for who you are. If you are projecting yourself in the perspective of playing weird games, then weird guys will be attracted to you.
There's a lot to be learned right here.

For good, quality people, games are a terrible thing. They'll move on to people that will treat them the same way they want to treat their dates.
 
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Do you like for people to play games with you?

If you think you need games to attract a certain guy, he is almost certainly the wrong guy.
 
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Yes, count my vote with the above four posts. Some of these threads and posters are constantly advising the "play it cool" approach to "play hard to get", "pickup women" etc. I think the only people who benefit from this are the authors of these dating books.
To me, it's totally illogical, I never landed anything I really wanted by "playing games"........these are used car salesman tactics......and they only work if you are trying to sell a lemon to a fool.

MicMan wrote :
There's a lot to be learned right here.
For good, quality people, games are a terrible thing. They'll move on to people that will treat them the same way they want to treat their dates.
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Playing games is only going to make you miserable. Be yourself and you'll find someone who is Mr. Right, not someone who is Mr. Rightnow.
 
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Would you want to waste your time one someone who is blatantly playing games with you? So, please, don't do it to anyone else.

There are two men in my life that will never be more than friends because of the types of games that they play. And what's worse, when I call them out on their BS, they start lying. So nothing good can come of it. If you feel the need to play games with a man, he's not worth your time.
 
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girlscout3 wrote :
I can't seem to figure out what to do when it comes to dating games. I hear mixed reviews. When I'm dating someone I like to do nice things for him. I anwer when he calls and usually make time to meet with him for a date. Do you think I would have better luck if I played games?

The traits you mention are a positive in my book. The moment I sense games being played by someone I am dating then I walk away. Don't play games, and be the better person.
 
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I agree with everybody else - what you do is going to result in what you get. Playing games will only mean a series of meaningless, short, drama-filled, unfulfilling encounters.

However at the same time ~ what I've noticed is that if you are too willing to please, always overly accomodating, and jumping whenever the other person pays you attention, you are most likely setting up a scenario where they know they have control and know that whatever they want from you whenever ~ you'll give to them and thensome. This is NOT healthy either.

so.. enjoy and be you, but also don't make this person the center of your being, happiness, and life. You need to have a life of your own and your own happiness coming into a situation for it to truly be a fulfilling and happy one.

Good luck.
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