TAG95 is offline TAG95 Post #1  August 2,2010, 4:09pm
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I told my ex that I didn't want him to call me for awhile d/t I continue the o have feelings for him and he has began a new relationship weeks after telling we would be better friends. I limited contact to no contact for about the last three weeks until he called and left a message on my voice mail telling me that he was trying to get in touch with me. I talked to him briefly the following day giving him only20 mins as it was small talk and he wasn't really talking about anything and I wasn't trying to entertain the thought of him calling whenever he wanted as he now thinks we are better as friends(his terms). I last night/this morning that I cannot let him do this to me. I was very teary eyed after his call and I didn't feel like he should make me feel like this. My issue is that I was good enough to go out with, have sex with, spend the holidays with but all of the sudden I'm now only good as a platonic friend. I told him that I have strong feelings for him but I don't feel comfortable with him calling me randomly like he didn't tell me that he no longer felt like we would have a relationship other than friendship. I have deleted him from fb and he told me that he would respect my wishes as to not calling me for awhile as I told him I have strong feelings for him and that I cannot handle the fact that he doesn't care for me in the way I care for him. Maybe after some time I will be able to be friends but right now I can't.
 
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You need to do what is right for you now. And he should respect your wishes, but we all know that people don't generally do that.

If you do not care to talk to him and doing so is hurtful to you then I wouldn't do it. He dumped you/no getting around that. Now it sounds like he wants a booty call...if you don't then just ignore his plea for communication.

The ironic thing is I am going thru a similar situation-and I broke up with my boyfriend-who now wants to be friends.

I seldom try to be friends with ex boyfriends because it can be hurtful and cause problems in the end.

I don't think you are doing the wrong thing and I do think he is trying to manipulate you back into a FWB status. Happens all the time.
 
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Yes, you did.

If the situation is damaging to you, then limiting or ending it is right.

I would likely have ended things too, if a partner distanced from me in this manner.
 
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penpen2 is offline penpen2 Post #4  August 2,2010, 9:53pm
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You did the right thing. Be strong and keep at it.

I had to do a similar thing before. It was very hard to heal with constant reminders and being forced to pretend that everything is OK.
 
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