sydv01 is offline sydv01 Post #1  July 31,2010, 7:19pm
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Ok so I'm in bit of a dilemma with this girl (who I LIKE) I met in a summer class I took (in college). She showed all the positive signs. She talked to me first, she would glance and smile at me (first thing she did after she walked into class). Even after class, she we often join me in the library where I usually went to study (she would just do random stuff). Now, i know that she's very friendly and has many friends but she didn't interact with ANYONE except me and one of her other friends. Whenever I was walking behind her, she would slow down. I definitely had her undivided attention but Im kinda shy so I didn't take full advantage of the opportunity. Even though we didn't know each other THAT well, she started touching me. SHe would often touch my arm, back or lean her head on my shoulder. On the last day of class, I asked for her number and if she wanted to hang out. She said yes, but she didn't have a cellphone (i don't think she was trying to avoid me, I have never seen her with a cellphone) and that her parents were being kinda weird (she lives with them) so it would be easier for her to hangout whenever classes are in session (its vacation now, classes start in sept).So I asked if she has a screen name. SHe did, and she gave it to me and then she sort of laughed and also wrote down her home phone without my asking. After the summer class ended, I waited a week and IMed her today. Her replies were very enthusiastic but she had to leave early. She asked if I would be online later. so the basic problem I have is that I'm kinda nervous calling her home (her parents might pick up, and idk if its too aggressive to call her at home this eary). I really wanted to hangout with her during the summer and I will try my best to do so. but if I have to wait till september that'll really suck and we might grow apart. I mean we can talk online but due to her really friendly and cheerful manner its hard to get into a flirty mood. I don't even know if she's ever been in a relationship...she's not the extremely girly, romantic type. So basically, does it seem like she's into me? and what exactly can I say/talk about online to keep the attraction alive? (I'll definitely try to call her at home and try to hang out but for now I think we should just talk online).
 
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Boy-your post made me realize I don't know exactly what protocol is in the era of personal cell phones....however since she doesn't seem to have one, and did give you her home phone number, calling her should be your next step.

Back in ancient days, pre cell phones that is, when everyone had the same home phone number, a call from a guy to a girl would be thought normal.

I say---it's still normal for her. If you want to get to know her better, to see her before school starts again, call and ask if she can talk on the phone-and if not when she might be online so you can IM...

Thats the only way you are going to get to know her isn't it?
 
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My only concern with calling her would be that she said her parents 'were being kinda weird' -I have no idea what that means. But since it seems to be related to the phone, I would just ask her next time you IM if there's a good time to call her (NOT if you can call her).
 
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Yes it does sound like she's interested in you. And since she gave you her home phone number, call it. I doubt the parents of a college-aged woman are going to be shocked that she gets a call from a man!

Do you live far apart? If not, ask her out. Some kind of activity date (doing something together, rather than sitting at a restaurant or whatever) might be easier for a first date if you are shy.

People who don't have cellphones give out their home number. It's not different from giving out a cell number. Good luck!
 
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