scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #11  July 30,2010, 10:14pm
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it always amazes me how many people have suddenly sick grandmas after first dates.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #12  July 31,2010, 5:02am
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BikerBeagle wrote :
...quite simple, really ...it's a 'hoarders' mentality converted to the dating world. These types of people don't throw *anything* away (which is essentially what "I do not see anything becoming with us" is doing) ...it's just something they can't bring themselves to do.
This is very astute, BikerBeagle! Thank you for helping me understand this. I get it now!
 
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Are the photo's in your profile clearly representative of how you look today, or do they leave some room for "guessing", to the extent that the one left to guess may have guessed wrong?

While this may not be applicable in your case, incomplete photo's add another element of uncertainty that is occasionally a deal breaker at the first date.

Just goes to chemistry and such, and that with lack of an accurate photo, we tend to visualize what our match looks like during phone conversations, and that on meeting we occasionally find that fantasy and fact are incompatible.

Point is, if you see a guy only in a headshot with a hat on who looks cute, but at your first date he turns out to be short, fat, and bald (who may or may not still be cute and cuddly ), you may opt against a second date.
 
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milkman222 wrote :
Ok so here is my little secret he said a family member passed away but failed to mention who it was mother, aunt, uncle? Failing to tell you this information ment he was turning you down regardless if someone did die or not. He did not tell you any specifics because he was not trying to get close to you but simply the opposite push you away perhaps for what happened on the date.
I agree with this.

I recently had to miss a date (not a first date, at least) because I had to go to a viewing for a somewhat distant-relative: my uncle by marriage, who was no longer technically related to me, because my aunt had already died years ago, and he had remarried. My family was basically just close enough to him that we felt obligated to go.

Therefore, that is exactly what I told my date, because I wanted her to understand.
 
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I don't understand. If you weren't even willing to give him a kiss goodnight after the first date why are you so concerned about him?
 
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Could be fake or could be real. Who knows... But on the off-chance that it is real, I'd say, cut him some slack and maybe call him again in a week or two if you're still interested (or still single hehe...) at that time.
 
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