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heisenberg is offline heisenberg Post #1  July 9,2010, 5:43pm
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These days, it seems like a lot more guys for reasons beyond being more attractive to the opposite sex are using "Just for Men" regularly. Work, social circles, Hollywood media, and other influences also drive a need to look younger. I'm guilty of succumbing to this.

We have the likes of Gere and Leno on one end who look good in white, and on the other end Mel, Jackie, and many more older actors looking like they put black shoe polish on their heads.

Most guys I know who do not care about covering a full head of grays are the married ones. But many guys simply shave their head and take care of the gray and receding hairline in one shot.

Does it matter to you women if a guy is sporting a mostly white mane, as opposed to covering up his greys?

Do women really care? Are they as superficial as many men are in this regard?

Or would most women qualify with an "it depends".... in part on how the white hair blends in with his other physical attributes?

That for some guys this would arguably be a plus, and others a minus? A plus for an older guy who has a full head of hair, is lean and physically fit, reasonably good looking, and a high income earner? Or maybe a plus for all guys... or none?

Today a female colleague at the large corporation I work for commented that it appeared I was showing white hairs. When I half-jokingly suggested I was considering going "au naturale", her remark was I would look more distinguished.

Which got me on this train of thought tonight...
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Some men and women look more distinguished with gray hair, and some just look older. I'm not sure why. It probably has to do with self-confidence.

It doesn't bother me if a man dyes his hair, except when it is a poor choice of colour so that, as you say, it looks like shoe polish. Most (all?) of the men I know just go gray. Maybe if they were public figures or actors it might be different, but we just accept their gray hair.

I also am comfortable with men having receding hairlines, providing there is no comb-over. Never, ever, comb over. And, unless they've really improved them, toupees are a bad idea, too.
 
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The dye is totally unnecessary. Just get a good, stylish haircut.

I actually like white/gray hair on someone younger (look, for example, at Anderson Cooper, who looks great).

But then, I started going gray in my twenties and have never dyed my hair, so I'm in the "pro-gray" camp.
 
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I know a guy who used to dye his hair (natural shade was reddish). He looked good then, and he looks good to me now that he is all silver.

I know a guy sho is 56 is living with a woman who is 34. He dyes his hair and VanDyke, and looks great... doesn't look any older than maybe mid 40s. It helps that he has a very youthful outlook on life, too.

I've known lots of guys who are "salt and pepper" or totally grey. I can't remember ever thinking "Gee, he really ought to dye that." That's the thing... most guys grey well, look "distinguished." Most women don't grey as well. Some do, but I think they also use a lot of other hair care products to get it to look good.
 
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It all depends on how much and how the grey is growing in.
There is a point where the dye doesnt look good anymore because the grey doesnt take the dye well.
 
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I find graying hair on men to be very attractive. I have an affinity for brunettes and agree with your colleague that once the gray/white starts, it looks quite distinguished. I don't think I've ever seen a man with graying hair that I thought looked bad. I can see maybe shaving the head if also balding, as I now prefer that look to half a head of hair.

It is all down to personal preference, so I would go with what is natural and let someone appreciate you for who you are.

For myself, I will continue to try to hide my grays! I think it would just make me look old in an undignified way, and I like getting carded for alcohol at most places I go.
 
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My hairs started turning grey just past my 20's.

If women have had any negative view toward it, nobody has ever said anything to that effect. Since other appearance elements have been commented on, it appears that this is a non-issue for women.
 
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If he is going to dye his hair, I only care that he doesn't do something really odd ... like emulate Colin Miller and his changing hair colour. Though, it was highly entertaining to watch other cricket greats like Walsh and Lara react when they got a load of his hair colour! lol

I just like his hair to be clean and and not in his face.
 
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I prefer men with natural hair color - even if it's gray. But it's really a matter of personal preference and good taste.
 
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Mens' hair looks good when it's clean, cut well, and in good condition (shiny, no split ends if long). Gray or otherwise.

Skip the dye and get a good conditioner!

(Unless you just like to play with hair coloring ... then go for it, have fun!)
 
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