EchosSerenity is offline EchosSerenity Post #1  June 17,2010, 9:41pm
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I already know my options, but wanted to vent my frustration for a minute. Met a guy on EH about a month ago. He contacted me thru EH email 3 days after our first meeting (even though he had my phone #) to say he had a great time and he was interested in seeing me again. We have gone out a couple more times, each with only one or two calls prior to the date to arrange the time etc. Last Sunday, he came by to get me and we ran an errand together and went to his place for dinner. It was a great evening and I feel confident that he also had a great time. (no sex; but some pretty good kissing). He brought me home, we kissed goodnight and I haven't heard from him since. I understand that part of my angst is self driven. It was MY expectation that I would hear from him by now; 4 days is not an eternity and there could be a million reasons for him not calling; including he decided he is just not that into me. It bruises my ego, but I've been through much worse. I wilI be contacting him to ask him directly if he is interested in continuing to see me and if he says no, at least I have the opportunity for closure and can wish him well. That would be too bad though...he has a great sense of humor! I hate this part of dating. Thanks for listening and please feel free to comment/advise.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  June 17,2010, 9:51pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Maybe he enjoys having you around to go on a date when he feels like it, but isn't interested in much more. Just speculating here.
 
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What about just emailing or text or phone, whatever you like to do, and just say hi how are you, what's up etc. It's possible he just is up in the air or something, or you know all the usual reasons someone doesn't call: sick, emergency blah blah!

Or, call and ask him out?

I hate this part of dating too!
 
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I hate this part too. If i were you I would call him up to give it a try [rather than to wait], which might be frustrating!
 
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In my experience, after three dates most men kind of want you to become more proactive in contacting them as well and possibly arranging or suggesting a date. Also, if you don't make that effort, they will tend to read your passive behavior as lack of sufficient interest in him. You might want to just pick up the phone and call him and see where things go without the angry and aggressive "where do we stand" tone.
 
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Nothing happened. He's probably not interested.
 
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He's probably waiting for you to take some initiative if you want to progress any further. Why is it up to the men to be the cruise director of the relationship?
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Why is it up to the men to be the cruise director of the relationship?
That's only when you're on the love boat...Cap'n
 
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Thanks for the feedback. I sent him an email today, letting him know that I have had a great time with him and that if he is still into it; I would love to cook him dinner sometime.
I am of the mind set that if you don't ask for what you want, you are probably not going to get what you want. I have nothing to lose here and much to gain.

Thanks again for your words of encouragement.
 
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