Guy who doesn't drive

If you have made it clear in your profile that you can't drive, then you can consider that these women don't see it as a problem. Everyone sees certain situations as being too trivial to let interfere with finding love, and other circumstances as total deal-breakers. Perhaps that you don't drive is something that these matches see as unimportant. You should, however, make sure you bring it up in communication later since not everyone reads profiles carefully, so it may be that they haven't really noticed this information.

My personal view is that if something is long distance (even an hour of driving), both parties would need to contribute to the travel. That's my view because I get extremely stressed driving on freeways and I would not like that burden to fall entirely on me -- I would feel that I was unfairly carrying too much of the work in the relationship. Someone who doesn't hate driving as much as me, or who lives somewhere with less traffic than Southern California might not care and could even enjoy a long drive (I used to before I moved here!).

Also, if a relationship develops, I would want to have some time together where I live, not always being a guest in his home. Fortunately, everyone is different, so not everyone is going to need the same things I do in a relationship.

The one girl I ended up going out with was one of the ones who was far away but intiated contact.

She was working in a city much closer to where I live so it wasn't a problem for us to meet after she was done with work one night. I had a great time, thought she did too. We talked a few more times after that, I asked if she wanted to get together again, I offered to take a bus out to where she lives so she wouldn't have to do the traveling. She kept telling me she'd get back to me, finally I stopped calling her, figuring she had lost interest.