I wanted to give those that wrote back to me two weeks ago an "update" on my challenges from E-Harmony and if anything has changed. Real briefly speaking, since March, I have gone out on half a dozen first meet ups with zero luck with a second date. The women I have been matched up with seem to arrive with a perceived "check list" of qualification that I must meet. Two of these meet-ups after open communication never thanked me for the "date", one waited 7 days later to tell me there was no chemistry after she told me that we should make plans for a second date and finally another women who told me 45 minutes into the date that she was attracted to "salt and pepper" hair types. (How do you think that made me feel when my hair is blond?



I think there is something wrong with the match process or the way the women are approaching the first meet-up. Or expectations. I am 42 years old. Are these women so set in their ways that they arrive at the first meet-up with a perceived check list with zero tolerance for exception? And for courtesy? A simple thank you?



In a case that underscores the issues I am having with this site, last weekend, I was contacted by another member and we reached open communication and things were going pretty well. She even wrote back that it appeared I was "put under the ringer" by other matches and that she would take it easy on me. 3 days later, she closed all communication with "other" as to an explanation. I didn't say anything to set off alarms. She just closed me out. Period.



I think there are a lot of confused women out there. I think they state they want a relationship but either they are afraid or have such strict requirements that they set the guy up for failure.



Why go through E-Harmony if you want to play games? Why tell your date something you know is simply not true?



Oddly enough, I tried another web site for dating. Only this one was really a "meet up" web site for singles in the area. I met 2 individuals that want to go out on a date with me. What took days if not weeks to obtain a simple first "meet up" after open communication on E-Harmony took only one night on an alternative site.

I am not here to bash E-Harmony. But what I am saying is that my past 3 months on this site with the women that I have asked for open communication, has taught me that there are a lot of confused women out there.

There are equally as many confused men as there are women.