what's it like to lose virginity for an older guy


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tnk8 is offline tnk8 Post #1  March 29,2010, 3:28pm
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I'm asking because my boyfriend and I started to have sex recently. He was a virgin and he's 32. We've talked about it some but it's not the most comfortable thing for either of us to talk about. He feels like he's a little strange because of this, i don't want to grill him but am very curious. What do guy's go through emotionally vis-a-vis the first time with sex? What do you go through sexually? I think it's very different for women so my own experience prolly doesn't compare.

I'd appreciate any insights. Thanks.
 
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"Ack, owww, ewww!"

I hope it gets better!

It did, thankfully.
 
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Not that big of a deal I'd imagine. Probably relieved he got it out of the way and is now otherwise "normal."
 
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tnk8,

I was 15 my first time, so this doesn't come from personal experience, but I do have a good friend who was around 30 when he first had sex. It was a really big deal for him as the longer he went in life without it the greater anxiousness and nerves he got about the whole thing. So, I'd suspect that the older the man was when he lost his virginity the more emotionally "impactful" the experience would be. He had all those long years to build up his first time in his mind.

Was he waiting for "the right one" before having sex? Or love? Has he said anything like this? If so he may fall for you quickly or already be in love. I'm just speculating here, if you provide some more details about him and his attitudes about sex it might be helpful.
 
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he says it just never worked out. he was just too shy, and never could quite "just go for it". i don't know why it worked with us when not previously.

thanks insertscreenname. it helps to find out what other people say rather than just try to project what i think i would feel...
 
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