1234whyme1234 is offline 1234whyme1234 Post #1  March 22,2010, 10:43am
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I am in a complicated relationship. some backround, I've been seeing this guy who is good but doesn't seem to be 'my type' it's been 1.5 years and I moved in for three months and then moved out. For the last 4 months, I have been attracted to someone who is also attracted to me. we get along, we communicate well. but now, we have recently expressed our feeling about eachother to eachother. I am still in the other relationship we are "working on things". I want to break it completely off with the one i've been in the 1.5 yr relationship with, I know that we aren't ment for eachother. but I don't know if this is a healthy situation. and i never ment to get emotionally involved with the "other man"... whom by the way never ment to do the same with me. It just happened. I feel like I'm being decietful and almost like I'm cheating. what should i do?
 
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Why in the world are you dragging out a relationship that is clearly not working for you? Let the guy go so he can find a healthy relationship to be in where he is actually wanted and loved and you the same for that matter. No comment on the new guy. Before anything you need to sort out and find the courage or the plain human decency to stop dragging things out in your current relationship.
 
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Wow. Get out of your current relationship before pursuing another. It is disrespectful to your current boyfriend to do otherwise.
 
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I agree with Dancingfool, you're being completely unfair, OP, to this guy. End the relationship and move on to the new guy.
 
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what should i do?
End your current relationship.

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but I don't know if this is a healthy situation. and i never ment to get emotionally involved with the "other man"... whom by the way never ment to do the same with me. It just happened.
Anyone else think this implies that the other man is also in a relationship or married? Without clarification I will make no comment. Not that it really matters either way...just sayin!
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1234whyme1234 wrote :
I am in a complicated relationship. some backround, I've been seeing this guy who is good but doesn't seem to be 'my type' it's been 1.5 years and I moved in for three months and then moved out. For the last 4 months, I have been attracted to someone who is also attracted to me. we get along, we communicate well. but now, we have recently expressed our feeling about eachother to eachother. I am still in the other relationship we are "working on things". I want to break it completely off with the one i've been in the 1.5 yr relationship with, I know that we aren't ment for eachother. but I don't know if this is a healthy situation. and i never ment to get emotionally involved with the "other man"... whom by the way never ment to do the same with me. It just happened. I feel like I'm being deceitful and almost like I'm cheating. what should i do?
Not officially, but let's just say you're already preparing the application in advance...currently in pending status awaiting for approval.

The right thing to do is to break it off with the current guy and pursue this second guy.

I never buy the 'It just happened" argument. Let's see...if one day you visit your boyfriend, open the bedroom door and he is playing Mr.Rodeo with your best friend....what would be your first words when he said "honey, it just happened".
 
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