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dermit310 is offline dermit310 Post #1  March 20,2010, 7:39pm
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I was matched up with this guy that lives far away from me and I'm not really attracted to him or all that interested... so I closed him. He replied and said that he thought we had potential, etc. So I thought, well, what's the worst that could happen? So I reopened. We went through the questions and now we're at OC. I'm still not attracted to him... or interested. So I thought it would be better to let him down via email rather than just a straight up close. But he wrote back to me and seems to think we should still give it a try.

So, do I go with my gut feeling that it's just not happening... or should I try for something different and give him a chance?

I know looks aren't everything, but how much emphasis do you put on physical attraction?

I don't know... maybe I just feel bad closing him out. Or maybe the only reason I gave it a shot is because he was the only match answering my request for communication, haha!

What do you think? And thanks for taking the time
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  March 20,2010, 7:47pm
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What could it hurt at this point?
OK, gas to go and see him. But you might just have a good time.
 
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mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #3  March 20,2010, 7:54pm
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You're not interested, you're not attracted, he lives far away... sounds like a perfect situation.
 
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dermit310 wrote :
I don't know... maybe I just feel bad closing him out. Or maybe the only reason I gave it a shot is because he was the only match answering my request for communication, haha!
Sorry, I have a hard time finding any humor in this!

It's stuff like this that gives e-dating a bad rap..
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Sorry, I have a hard time finding any humor in this!

It's stuff like this that gives e-dating a bad rap..

It wasn't meant to be a joke. I'm being serious... I think it's entirely possible to get so caught up in the idea that someone's finally interested in you and you can end up not focusing on whether or not YOU'RE interested. I've done that before... and I've learned from my mistakes. So I think that's the only reason why I said that. I'm sorry for any offense.

On that note... I've decided to just close the match. I admire his effort, but I'm just not interested. So there you have it.

Thanks for taking the time guys

And good luck!
 
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Do you always let guys talk you into doing things you don't want to do?

Reverse roles. How would you feel if a guy did this to you? Pretty lousy, right?

I think what you're doing is passing time because he's the only one who answered your request for communication, and IMO, that's pretty cruel. Close the match and move on--no more email, no more anything. You aren't interested. You aren't going to be interested. Why play games with the guy? Again, reverse roles: How would this make you feel? Show some kindness and let him find someone who is a good match for him, just as you'd like to find a good match for you.
 
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brneyedangel wrote :
Do you always let guys talk you into doing things you don't want to do?

Reverse roles. How would you feel if a guy did this to you? Pretty lousy, right?

I think what you're doing is passing time because he's the only one who answered your request for communication, and IMO, that's pretty cruel. Close the match and move on--no more email, no more anything. You aren't interested. You aren't going to be interested. Why play games with the guy? Again, reverse roles: How would this make you feel? Show some kindness and let him find someone who is a good match for him, just as you'd like to find a good match for you.

You're right And that's why I'm going to close it. Because I've done that before and it was so lame. So, thank you for your honesty.
 
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dermit310 wrote :
You're right And that's why I'm going to close it. Because I've done that before and it was so lame. So, thank you for your honesty.
You're welcome...now go find a match that makes you excited about going to see him!

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