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greg75 is offline greg75 Post #31  March 22,2010, 3:37pm
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You did more than I, so far, have been willing to do. I'm not a "bar person" either and, although tempted in the past few weeks to just go and see what's changed in 20 years, I have not. I may go have dinner at one in the near future, talk to some people, but suspect I will walk away with the same experience you had.

I've been trying to figure out a new activity I might be interested in signing up for just to get out there more.

There isn't many things to sign up for in my area. People say to do volunteer work, but there really isn't many good places to volunteer here.

I might try it again sometime soon and see if it was just an off night for me.
 
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True...for me it would take a few times going back since I'm sure the first time being there I'd feel out of my element and would be more confident on subsequent visits. Practice, practice, practice.
 
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greg75 wrote :
There isn't many things to sign up for in my area. People say to do volunteer work, but there really isn't many good places to volunteer here.

I might try it again sometime soon and see if it was just an off night for me.
What makes a place a "good" place to volunteer?
 
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What makes a place a "good" place to volunteer?
One with a lot of pretty women...LOL!
 
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greg75 wrote :
There isn't many things to sign up for in my area. People say to do volunteer work, but there really isn't many good places to volunteer here.
I share your plight. I don't know what kind of community you live in, but I live in a small town, and there are limited social options.

I do my fair share of volunteer work, but so far, I've had no luck whatsoever meeting single women. There have been plenty of women, but they've been married or in relationships. I guess I should look into different types of volunteering. So far, I've been sticking with volunteering in my interests.

I've checked the meetup.com site before and there's nothing in my area. That was disappointing.
 
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I share your plight. I don't know what kind of community you live in, but I live in a small town, and there are limited social options.

I do my fair share of volunteer work, but so far, I've had no luck whatsoever meeting single women. There have been plenty of women, but they've been married or in relationships. I guess I should look into different types of volunteering. So far, I've been sticking with volunteering in my interests.

I've checked the meetup.com site before and there's nothing in my area. That was disappointing.
I also live in a small town, and there aren't many places to do volunteer work. Maybe the SPCA, but the only ones who volunteer there are usually retired people who are just looking for things to do during the day. I have briefly looked at that meetup.com site. Same thing, there isn't anything going on in my area. Guess I'll have to be the one to come up with something? Maybe I can head up a speed date thing?
 
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Yeah, wow...let's just say that there is no doubt now how much of a "non-bar" person I am! I decided (per another thread) that I would give it a shot and go to the local bar and try to talk to people. Well, the women at these bars must speak a foreign language, because I was completely ignored each and every time I tried to strike up a conversation. More than once mind you! I don't understand it! I look just like my photos, I'm not overweight, I have no deformities.. I have no weird sounding voice....I'm telling ya guys and gals, if ANYBODY is having bad luck dating or even just speaking to the members of the opposite sex, they need to come and talk to me first! Because I guarantee whatever problems they are having probably don't measure up to the luck I've been having!

So, anyways, I'm home on a Saturday night. Thinking about what I can do to fill the void. I guess I've always been a loner anyway, maybe it's time I just embrace it and learn to live life without that part of my life?
Bars are not that great to meet people. I notice quite a few bored, unhappy people there, and some of them even have attitudes. Pass. I think some kind of workshop, seminar or class would have better prospects. Cultural fairs and music festivals are pretty good bets too, because there's not all that pressure to connect. The mood is more laid back, happier.
 
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I'm no expert but here's a few things to keep in mind if you're trying to talk to people you just met:

1. Smile and be energetic. Personally, caffeine is a lot better than alcohol for me.
2. Watch your own voice inflection. Make sure to keep it neutral instead of sounding like you're asking for permission or asking a question.
3. Address the woman's friends and ask how they all know each other.
4. You should be able to tell immediately what a woman is thinking by watching her eyes and how she positions her body.
 
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