nicekleo is offline nicekleo Post #1  March 20,2010, 8:06am
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My boyfriend came from out of town to spend the weekend with me and gave me an expensive gift that he said represented his heart. He flew home and sent a thank you note and signed it affectionately. But he hasn't written me since. Should I continue to wait or assume he has moved on? I am new to the dating scene and would like some advice. Thank you.
 
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Did you write him back? How long have you known him? How long has it been since you heard from him?
 
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What is the time frame? You say he came and went,
an hour ago,
a week,
a month?
How well do you know him?
Why are you calling him your boyfriend?
 
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Agree with the above.

And, was any plan for a next meeting discussed? Did you want one?

Personally, I favor women who participate and show return interest, so I think you should be taking your turn (which it is) to make a communication to him.

If he had suggested and planned the first meeting, I would suggest you consider replying to his "thank you" with similar of your own, and introduce a suggestion of the next meeting.
 
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nicekleo wrote :
My boyfriend came from out of town to spend the weekend with me and gave me an expensive gift that he said represented his heart. He flew home and sent a thank you note and signed it affectionately. But he hasn't written me since. Should I continue to wait or assume he has moved on? I am new to the dating scene and would like some advice. Thank you.
Do you not communicate with your boyfriend in ways other than writing? IDK maybe try calling him!
 
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He's not your boyfriend if you have to ask.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #7  March 20,2010, 11:41am
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scarlet13 wrote :
He's not your boyfriend if you have to ask.
I was thinking the same thing when I read the OP. There are too many unanswered questions in the OP to gauge what is really going on, but I guess you are right.

Life bites sometimes!
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Do you not communicate with your boyfriend in ways other than writing? IDK maybe try calling him!
Agreed; if the only way you talk when you are not together is through writing, then I really have to question whether or not he is truly your boyfriend or whether you want him to be your boyfriend. Pick up the phone and call the man!

scarlet13 wrote :
He's not your boyfriend if you have to ask.
Again, I agree. If you have to ask a question like this about a guy, then you probably already know the answer, unfortunately.
 
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nicekleo wrote :
My boyfriend came from out of town to spend the weekend with me and gave me an expensive gift that he said represented his heart. He flew home and sent a thank you note and signed it affectionately. But he hasn't written me since. Should I continue to wait or assume he has moved on? I am new to the dating scene and would like some advice. Thank you.
I'm sorry this happened to you and sincerely hope he is not a 'poofer'.

Try calling him...maybe something happened.

Keep your head up!
 
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Some of these posts are crazy-negative!

Who would fly to a date, bring something expensive, and then poof?

A salesman for an executive jet brokerage with the miraculous coincidence of being in exactly the same town as a woman he met online, and looking to kill some time?

It's a more likely explanation he's a normal guy motivated to meet. Let's make some fine Advices around that idea?
 
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