computerfox is offline computerfox Post #11  March 21,2010, 3:42pm
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It sounds like you haven't had a DTR talk yet and until you do you shouldn't seem suspicious of anything.

I'm new to these boards and not sure what OP stands for. Could someone help me out?
 
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computerfox wrote :
It sounds like you haven't had a DTR talk yet and until you do you shouldn't seem suspicious of anything.

I'm new to these boards and not sure what OP stands for. Could someone help me out?
OP = Original Post or Original Poster, the person who started the thread.

What is DTR?
 
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After two months you two should be meeting and socializing some with each other's friends. If you are not, set something up to do so.

Trust your gut. If he claims you are exclusive, but continues to be vague and occasionally lets it slip that the "friend" he was hanging out with is a she, but doesn't use her name or invite you to also meet his friends.... that is a legitimate red flag and you should call him out on it.
 
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Define the Relationship. Thank you for clarifying what OP stands for.
 
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mrflyer wrote :
So you expect your dates to account for every minute of their time that wasn't spent with you?
I couldn't care less what a 'date' does with their time, but if they expect to become a relationship then I expect a higher level of transparancy than this person is providing. After two months I'd expect some statement of clarification on whether he's continuing to see others or not...and I'd ask for it.

There's no reason to cause uncertainty in others. In my experience, doing so is simply the precursor to other issues.
 
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