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dazedconfuzed is offline dazedconfuzed Post #21  March 16,2010, 7:33pm
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He continued: "There's more than the mileage. I sense that we could have a lot of good times together, but what I'm afraid of is...that since we're not in our 20's we don't have time to goof around...we need to focus on the future and if this will turn out to be a ltr and that's what I don't know. I simply haven't learned enough about you to make that decision to have a steady relationship. I'm not confused that I have a good time with you, but rather if our long term goals/values are in sync"
If you continue with this guy you are setting yourself up to get hurt down the line. For whatever reason, he doesn't see you as the one. It completely different to think someone is a good fit for you on paper and to feel it. I think the long term goals thing above is just his attempt to put logic behind mostly illogical reasoning. It would be great if people picked mates for logical reasons. We could all fill out a questionnaire and be matched up with the perfect person. It would always work out, and life would be sunshine and roses. However, generally they don't. For whatever reason, you don't hit the sweet spot of characteristics that this guy needs to feel you are the one. Or he is a commitment phobe and he likes you and that scares him. Either way, it does not look promising.
 
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I have read over this thread a couple times now, and in all honestly, I am still in the dark on what to do. Since the talk he and I had last Sunday night, we have actually talked every night but once since. He says he thinks about me constantly and wishes I was with him.

I thought things were going better, he opened up about a lot of his fears and what's been going on in his head, but not yet touching on what happened in the last relationship that hurt him so badly.

Last night things turned negative I think. The conversation ended with both of us getting snippy. It was pretty late though and in IMs. He's been so sweet and affectionate and last night was amplified until the end of the convo. He wanted to see me, but it was already late and we are an hour apart. I know he was feeling a little down about something and I would have loved to be there, but it was so late (after midnight) and I was exhausted. I think he was hurt or upset that I wouldn't come to see him, but then turned the convo around to us moving too fast again because we talked about spending the night together.

I haven't SEEN him in 3 weeks. I don't know how we are moving too fast. (He is still recovering from the surgery.) He said 3 weeks wasn't that long, esp considering the distance (mileage) between us. Then he suggested that maybe we were both too tired and should sleep because we couldn't think straight and that he hadn't slept well the night before and was very tired. I agreed that we should get some sleep and then he asked me if he could go to bed.

I was floored. I didn't know what to say to that. Why would he ask me if he could go to bed when he just suggested it? I told him to get some sleep and wished him sweet dreams and hugs and kisses. He told me sweet dreams and said g'nite and logged off.

This morning I sent him a text saying good morning and that I hoped he got some good sleep and was feeling better.

I haven't heard from him all day or all evening.

I don't know what happened and I am yet again feeling dazed and confused and I am just so seriously tired of this feeling. My friends keep telling me to hang in there and just give him some time to get used to the idea of "us" and of someone caring for him. But I don't know if I can keep up the yoyo ride.
 
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Only you know how much you can take. I've read through your posts and it seems to me you have a pretty good head on your shoulders. What's it saying to you?

It's obvious you really like him, what draws you to him? Are they qualities that can outshine the fears and/or hangups he seems to have?

I am sorry he is being such a brat. Yeah, I said it, brat. lol If you can get past his walls, I think you guys have a chance, but do you have the patience?

Is he still sensitive about his looks after the surgery? Have you asked him about bruising and swelling? Maybe he is afraid for you to see him and is keeping you at arm's length for now?

It seems to me he is fighting against really liking you and being afraid of everything going so fast. I am sorry he keeps pulling the yoyo act on you.

I don't think he is playing you though.

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Thank you Careless.

We spoke today for a couple hours and he was just fine. Not mad, and apologized for sounding snippy. He was just tired. We made plans for next weekend and all I can do is wait and see what happens.

And LOL @ the brat comment. Sometimes I think that fits.

We have talked about his recovery and he said he is still getting some headaches and his nose is still very sore, like someone punched him square in the face. There is a lot that draws me to him, his personality, his intelligence, his humor. His smile.

We have a lot in common and just as much not in common. Those things are worrying me a little though. He is Baptist, I am Catholic, he is a neat freak, me not so much. He's a very picky eater, I love trying new things and cooking new things, he doesn't drink, I do once in a while. I can overcome these differences, but I am not so sure he can. Once thing I've learned is he is stubborn, but eventually comes around, so I have my fingers crossed... lol
 
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