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A friend of mine latly imformed me that the reason why I have problems attracting women is not because of looks, but my "old fashon" attitude towards a relationship. by this I mean that I was told by him that the majority of women in todays soceity are so independent (and I agree) that they don't need a man in their lives, but only for a one night stand or a bed buddy when nessasary. I'm told that modern day women don't need a man to hold them at night or other little "old fashion" perks. I feel that maybe this is misleading and I would like some others opinion.
 
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Your friend is full of it.

By far, the vast majority of women expect traditional men, in terms of success and ability and inclination to provide - though not demeaning or controlling toward women.

Very, very few women are looking for a "one-night stand."
 
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Agree completely with the Frog. Your friend is wrong, wrong, wrong.
 
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I don't know about the numbers, but rest assured there are some women around who would appreciate someone who thinks the way that you do. Quiet as it's kept these days, nothing wrong with being a little "old-fashioned" A little restraint and dignity, a little courtesy can be seen as very attractive by others.
 
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What is your friend's relationship status?
 
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There aren't any generalizations at all but according to the majority of the posts on eHA, most women are looking for a secure relationship with a man more aligned with traditional values than with your hypothetical modern day woman.

Writing as one of the most independent and non traditional women who posts here, I enjoy like (and presently have) a monogamous relationship with a man. Although marriage is not a goal for me as I am a mature woman who is very self sufficient, a one on one relationship for companionship and hawt sex (I wish) is still my goal.

Your friend sounds like he has a bowl full of sour grapes.
 
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spy 1011:[ the majority of women in todays soceity are so independent (and I agree) that they don't need a man in their lives, but only for a one night stand or a bed buddy when nessasary. I'm told that modern day women don't need a man to hold them at night or other little "old fashion" perks.
Last edited by shohreh; March 15,2010 at 11:13pm. Reason: every wise and healthy mind woman like have a lovely and last long relationship
 
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spy 1011:[ the majority of women in todays soceity are so independent (and I agree) that they don't need a man in their lives, but only for a one night stand or a bed buddy when nessasary. I'm told that modern day women don't need a man to hold them at night or other little "old fashion" perks.[/quote]
That's absolutly isn't truth.
Every wise, nice and healthy mind woman like to have a lovely relationship, affection and compassionate. all woman always need to love. It's emotional dependency and is different from social dependencey.
That's woman's nature. It is for all times,yesterday, today and tomorrow.
 
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I can assure you that most women out there are not this "modern day woman" you describe.
 
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spy1011 wrote :
A friend of mine latly imformed me that the reason why I have problems attracting women is not because of looks, but my "old fashon" attitude towards a relationship. by this I mean that I was told by him that the majority of women in todays soceity are so independent (and I agree) that they don't need a man in their lives, but only for a one night stand or a bed buddy when nessasary. I'm told that modern day women don't need a man to hold them at night or other little "old fashion" perks. I feel that maybe this is misleading and I would like some others opinion.
What a load of garbage!

I've never been interested in one night stands or being some bloke's bed buddy. Just because I am independant, doesn't mean that I won't allow him, and appreciate him, helping me to do stuff I have been perfectly able to manage on my own.

No, I don't 'need' a man to hold me at night. But that should not be mistakenly construed to be that I don't want the right man to hold me at night.
Last edited by meri75; March 16,2010 at 1:39pm. Reason: Typo fixing ... sigh, becoming a habit!
 
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