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shindig_747 is offline shindig_747 Post #1  February 26,2010, 11:16am
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First off thanks to everyone about there ideas and comments on my last post.
Ok, so here is anouther question. I tend to think of myself as some what old fashioned, as in giving flowers just because , opening doors, picking her up for our date, paying for everything, etc.
Now I know some of these things can seem a little cheesy by some, but i just like doing it. With sending flowers, do you think there would be a time frame that would be the best? Before you meet, with a card saying something like how you are looking forwrd to meeting? After you meet, (if you had a good date) saying how you enjoyed meeting? If she told you you where she lived or worked, or (since I live in a small town) you always seem to know some of the same people that could give you that info, where would be best to send them?
I usually always give flowers and have had some very mixed reactions. To me, I just see it as a nice gesture. Usually it goes over well. One girl was so happy that the next time I saw her she jumped into my arms and gave me a big hug and kiss (which is the feeling I'm trying to go for). Anouther called me right after she recieved them and was really thankful and seemed to like it. But like the last one I was questioning about, she really liked the one that I put on her car, but but got the "can't be bought" comment after I sent her the others.
Also, what type of flowers would be a good idea? I usually send roses, (not red ones though) until we get past the "dating" stage.
Was just curious what other women think.
 
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Certainly not before you've met.

I personally would wait til I had dated someone several times. Odds are I'd be paying for the dates anyway, so why does she need flowers on top of that?

If that's not enough, some women don't appreciate flowers. Nothing like buying something for a person who is ungrateful about your gift.
 
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I like flowers and don't tend to read any more into them then a thoughtful gesture from a thoughtful man.

However, after reading the reactions from other women on your first thread, it appears I'm in the minority here.

Apparently, it's a better idea to wait until you've had a few dates and not to leave them with her at work.

As far as what kind of flowers-there have been a couple of threads on the meaning of flowers, which is pretty intricate and involved. For me, I prefer live flowers if possible. My boyfriend noticed I had a huge swath of daffodils growing in my yard last weekend and asked if I wanted him to cut some for me. Because I enjoy them in the yard so much, I said no. Yesterday he brought me 3 small pots of daff in bloom bulbs...which I can enjoy in the house, then plant out doors for next seasons blooming.

Right now the bulb and tuber plants are just starting to bloom so they are a great idea-and fairly inexpensive. Tulips are fantastic and iris are beautiful. Daisies are many women's favorite flower. Roses have an entire language of their own but can be beautiful as a single flower.

BTW I also have bought flowers for my men friends, just because. It always was appreciated.
 
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Great ink blot test, the reaction you get, it does reveal a lot from delighted to jaded: from hug to can't buy me. Wouldn't send them to work, or leave them on the car. But if this seems to be giving you an edge, it's not that strange. It could make a great introduction and you stand out from the crowd, but keep it modest and simple as not to imply obligation. This has been done in history as part of the courtship process...... maybe for good reason
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First off thanks to everyone about there ideas and comments on my last post.
Ok, so here is another question. I tend to think of myself as some what old fashioned, as in giving flowers just because , opening doors, picking her up for our date, paying for everything, etc.
Now I know some of these things can seem a little cheesy by some, but i just like doing it. With sending flowers, do you think there would be a time frame that would be the best? Before you meet, with a card saying something like how you are looking forward to meeting? After you meet, (if you had a good date) saying how you enjoyed meeting? If she told you you where she lived or worked, or (since I live in a small town) you always seem to know some of the same people that could give you that info, where would be best to send them?
I usually always give flowers and have had some very mixed reactions. To me, I just see it as a nice gesture. Usually it goes over well. One girl was so happy that the next time I saw her she jumped into my arms and gave me a big hug and kiss (which is the feeling I'm trying to go for). Another called me right after she received them and was really thankful and seemed to like it. But like the last one I was questioning about, she really liked the one that I put on her car, but but got the "can't be bought" comment after I sent her the others.
Also, what type of flowers would be a good idea? I usually send roses, (not red ones though) until we get past the "dating" stage.
Was just curious what other women think.
 
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I think a single flower isn't too much even for these ladies who seem to think flowers smell like desperation. I think I'd recommend just taking it with you and giving it to her on the date.

I'm kind of like Roxy on the issue. To me it just looks like the guy tried to be thoughtful, and that's a good quality to have. I don't read more into it than that.
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shindig_747 wrote :
One girl was so happy that the next time I saw her she jumped into my arms and gave me a big hug and kiss (which is the feeling I'm trying to go for).
This is what I would do if a guy I liked sent me flowers. In fact, I would do that for any guy that sent me flowers unless I extremely disliked him, but then I don't think he would be sending me any. I love them and think they are a lovely gesture.


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Also, what type of flowers would be a good idea? I usually send roses, (not red ones though) until we get past the "dating" stage.
Was just curious what other women think.
I like an arrangement of Gerbera Daisies, Roses, and Lilies.
 
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Nanette wrote :
This is what I would do if a guy I liked sent me flowers. In fact, I would do that for any guy that sent me flowers unless I extremely disliked him, but then I don't think he would be sending me any. I love them and think they are a lovely gesture.


I like an arrangement of Gerbera Daisies, Roses, and Lilies.
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I think flowers on or before a first date is an iffy proposition...after that though, I think it's a great idea. Whether or not leaving flowers on a car at sending them to a workplace is a good idea would depend on the length of the relationship. I certainly wouldn't recommend sending them to a workplace too early, as she may not have told her co-workers about the relationship and you don't necessarily know how she'd feel about having that broadcast to her entire office.

On the positive side, when you can pull it off I highly recommend parking close to the restaurant you're going to and then running out out grab flowers from your car when she goes to use the restroom. Then just let them lie at your side until an opportune moment and give them to her (this works especially well if you're in a booth). The "how did you pull that off?" look you'll get is priceless
 
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Personally, I like it when they are from a man I know, and I have occasionally given a man flowers, or a single stem.

From the perspective of a florist (my Mum is and worked in her shop during my teens); we definitely saw instances where the flowers were not welcomed. Sending flowers to women who are not single when you are, or to women whom you do not know other to describe as 'Jane, visiting her friend at X address, she drives the yellow VB'. Creepy!
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I probably wouldn't send them before a first date, but showing up with flowers is fine in my book. Happened to me once and I thought it was sweet. (On a first date, I mean.)

I probably wouldn't immediately send them to her work, especially if she hasn't specifically told you where she works.

Personally, I love all those 'little' things you mentioned--flowers, opening doors, etc. A little old-fashioned courtesy goes a long way in my world.
 
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