rmb83 is offline rmb83 Post #1  February 12,2010, 3:17pm
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Alright, so here is my situation. I've been talking with a girl for over a month now. She lives about 4 hours away, so we haven't been able to have our first date yet. We talk ALL the time (by computer), and we have really hit it off. I was wondering if it would be a good or not so good idea sending her flowers for Valentine's Day. I'd have to send them to her workplace. I was just wanting to do something to let her know that I can't wait for our first date and to actually meet her! I read that variegated tulips mean "beautiful eyes" and yellow tulips mean "there is sunshine in your smile" and I was thinking of sending something like that...not roses (I figure roses might send the wrong message). The card might just say something like, "Hope you have a great day" or "Wanted to put a smile on your face today"...something like that. What do ya'll think???
 
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I'd say go ahead

It sounds like you've thought thru the type of appropriate flowers and the message you want to send by sending them. It doesn't come off to me as too over the top, though since you don't have an established relationship, maybe just send to her place instead? She might get weirded out if she has to "explain things" to her co-workers...just a thought... course I would love to get flowers sent to my work
 
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Flower work anytime! Go for it!
 
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You are crazy.....you are setting a higher standard that you wont be able to meet when it matters.
 
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rmb83 wrote :
Alright, so here is my situation. I've been talking with a girl for over a month now. She lives about 4 hours away, so we haven't been able to have our first date yet. We talk ALL the time (by computer), and we have really hit it off. I was wondering if it would be a good or not so good idea sending her flowers for Valentine's Day. I'd have to send them to her workplace. I was just wanting to do something to let her know that I can't wait for our first date and to actually meet her! I read that variegated tulips mean "beautiful eyes" and yellow tulips mean "there is sunshine in your smile" and I was thinking of sending something like that...not roses (I figure roses might send the wrong message). The card might just say something like, "Hope you have a great day" or "Wanted to put a smile on your face today"...something like that. What do ya'll think???
Talk by computer? Video? Or email?

Its a fine line.
 
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While I understand and appreciate the thought/intention, personally I would recommend keepings things low-key until after the relationship is better established.
 
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I don't see a problem with sending her flowers to her work. You are keeping the type of flower and the message low key so it doesn't come across as inappropriate or over the top. People in general like attention and like knowing that others are interested in them, find them attractive, etc. so you might just add a nice boost to her day. You might want to consider adding something to the effect that you were thinking about her to the message. There is nothing wrong with the message you planned on using but to me it seems a little too impersonal. Even though you have not had a first date it sounds like the two of you have spent quite a bit of time communicating which takes you past the stranger level. My guess is that you both already know a great deal about each other, including very personal information, and your message as is might come across as a little cold and impersonal which may create the opposite effect of what you are hoping for. You don't have to go too far with this of course. Just a simple "I was thinking of you and wanted to brighten your day" or something along these lines adds a little more of a personal touch without getting creepy.
 
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Talking?... on the computer? I'm wondering why you have no home phone number or address Is she married or living with someone?
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Alright, so here is my situation. I've been talking with a girl for over a month now. She lives about 4 hours away, so we haven't been able to have our first date yet. We talk ALL the time (by computer), and we have really hit it off. I was wondering if it would be a good or not so good idea sending her flowers for Valentine's Day. I'd have to send them to her workplace. I was just wanting to do something to let her know that I can't wait for our first date and to actually meet her! I read that variegated tulips mean "beautiful eyes" and yellow tulips mean "there is sunshine in your smile" and I was thinking of sending something like that...not roses (I figure roses might send the wrong message). The card might just say something like, "Hope you have a great day" or "Wanted to put a smile on your face today"...something like that. What do ya'll think???
 
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Absolutely not. You haven't even met her yet.
 
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singinggirl is online now singinggirl Post #10  February 13,2010, 7:29pm
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As long as it wasn't too over the top (red roses) or the note didn't go over the line, I would think it was sweet. And I like sweet.
 
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