leejcobb is offline leejcobb Post #1  February 10,2010, 9:59am
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probably an unusual question for this site but here goes.
I am 57 and became disabled with a chronic pain problem over 30 years ago. Prior to that I had fear of men, and dating and the pain kept me virtually housebound for many years so I did not have life time and experience to overcome the fear. there are some men who responded to my profile but each time I think I would like to contact someone the fear takes over. Do I just try and jump in, throw myself into the water as it were and just hope I learn to swim?
 
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Just do it!

One advantage of online dating is that you can ease into it electronically before you get to the point of talking on the phone or meeting in person.

The best way to proceed is to just get started.
 
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leejcobb wrote :
probably an unusual question for this site but here goes.
I am 57 and became disabled with a chronic pain problem over 30 years ago. Prior to that I had fear of men, and dating and the pain kept me virtually housebound for many years so I did not have life time and experience to overcome the fear. there are some men who responded to my profile but each time I think I would like to contact someone the fear takes over. Do I just try and jump in, throw myself into the water as it were and just hope I learn to swim?
I can understand how you feel, Leejcobb, after all, dating is all about judgment and I don't think I've ever known anyone that liked to be judged as poor.

Normally you can't get anywhere without taking the first step, so go ahead and take it.
 
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Jump in at the deep end and remember that absolutely nobody was born knowing how to date. We all learn along the way and most importantly never ever stop learning. The sooner you start the learning process the faster you'll gain the confidence and experience that you need.

What's to be afraid of anyway? That someone will say no thanks? You've dealt with a whole lot of that in your life in various situations and you are still doing just fine and this is no different.
 
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