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I asked this same question previously, but had a few variables I forgot to add. Just wondering if this is intentional or all accidental.

Essentially, met someone off of "EH" and basically had three dates over a 2-week period.(Casual dates, nothing intense nor any form of physical contact...just a hug kiss on cheek etc). It fizzled eventually(my intuition believed she was still playing the field).

After last date...two weeks go by with no contact whatsoever. I then receive a 230am "butt dial" from her cell, which goes to my voice-mail. All the sounds of a loud bar, music and voices were heard. This was in my opinion accidental, and I let it go. Two more weeks go by, and I get another 230am "butt dial" from her cell, same as before. After that incident, I politely texted the following morning, "Please delete my number, your cell is accidentally calling me when your out at clubs at 230am." "I'm hearing you and your Girlfriends talk at the clubs." She replied back, "Sorry."

I then thought my number would be deleted and life moves on. But then, a month goes by and I get another allegedly "butt dial" on a Friday night shortly after midnight(same as before). I did not text her after this incident, partly because I was baffled and just ignored it.

So is this all accidental? Let me just clarify somethings. I am definitely not the last person she called or texted; because of the time periods involved and this girl is a phone calling and texting junkie. Also, I cannot imagine why I would be on her speed dial either, we only hung out two weeks. **I also cannot block cell to cell calls on my phone."

So is this a game or all just accidental, even after I asked her to delete my number after the second incident...If I get another one in either a week or a month from now, what would you do?
- January 2nd, 2010, 12:52 pm
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The answers would be the same as the first time you posted the question. I wouldn't read any more into it other than a fluke of the phone, and I certainly wouldn't spend any time at all speculating on whether it might happen again in a week, a month, or ever.

Set her number to a silent ring and erase the 'butt dial' messages.... and move on.
- January 2nd, 2010, 01:14 pm
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My phone has done that before where it dialed a number that wasn't the last number called when it was in my purse. It has done it twice to two different people. If this does bother you check with your carrier. Some carriers can block a number from their location even though your cell does not have that option.
- January 2nd, 2010, 02:27 pm
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"she was still playing the field"

as she should! i'm sensing you have some issue with this ... more of problem than any odd phone calls.
- January 2nd, 2010, 02:48 pm
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People who call others from bars at 2:30 am are generally so bizarre, weird, horny, and/or likely very drunk, that it's difficult to believe that anyone actually does that. Yet, we see it all the time.

One possibility might be that in a drunken stupor she dials your number; then thinks better of it, or gets otherwise distracted and forgets that she's even dialed.
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- January 2nd, 2010, 03:41 pm
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She's a twerp and want's to mess with your head...3 times is no accident.
- January 2nd, 2010, 03:42 pm
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I don't understand why you're asking this question again.

She's an inconsiderate idiot. If you want to play games with her, go ahead, and don't be surprised when it all turns out to be a game.

Otherwise, ignore her, block her, change your number, or phone her and make it clear in no uncertain terms that you will report her as harrassing if she doesn't stop.

There is no gut feeling needed here. You're either willing to put up with someone ignoring your wishes, or you're wishing it meant something more than it does. It does not.
- January 2nd, 2010, 05:58 pm
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I don't know if it's intentional or not, but I know that my phone tends to dial the same number everytime when I make an accidental call. It's not a number I call often intentionally, it's not the first number in my phone book (or even the first one under that letter), and it doesn't have a speed dial assignment. Fortunately, it is my cousin, so I haven't run into anything too bad. Who knows why she didn't delete the number? Maybe she forgot or maybe she's just thoughtless.
- January 2nd, 2010, 08:23 pm
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My previous phone would occasionally do the dialing thing, as well as randomly send out previously sent text messages to people... no rhyme or reason to it.

She may or may not be dialing you intentionally.

Regardless, if she had just deleted your number in the first place, or when you asked, this wouldn't be an issue for you. But, she didn't.

Contact your service provider (as already suggested) and ask them to block the #, or you assign it a silent ring. Either one of those options will at very least limit the annoyance if it happens again.

Don't make a bigger deal out of it than it needs to be.
- January 4th, 2010, 04:28 am
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Gut feeling is that you need to get over it. She is messing with you and probably has misandrist tendencies. She might view you as a tool and is f'in with your head. Don't fall into a trap.

Get over her. Again.
- January 4th, 2010, 03:52 pm
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