Brook00 is offline Brook00 Post #1  December 17,2009, 11:40am
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I have been talking to this guy I met on EH for a short while. His profile said he is 35. When I asked him about his age, he said that he is 41. Should I end further communication with this guy?

I have no problem dating older men, however I feel like if he has to lie about his age what else is he lying about to me. If I didn’t asked him would he have told me his real age, and is he really 41. How do I know he is not really 45?

What should I do? When I asked him about it, he said that age is just a number and I should not let it stop us from communicating.
 
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[quote=Brook00;826878]I have been talking to this guy I met on EH for a short while. His profile said he is 35. When I asked him about his age, he said that he is 41. Should I end further communication with this guy?

I have no problem dating older men, however I feel like if he has to lie about his age what else is he lying about to me. If I didn’t asked him would he have told me his real age, and is he really 41. How do I know he is not really 45?

What should I do? When I asked him about it, he said that age is just a number and I should not let it stop us from communicating.
 
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is his name atlguy by any chance? kidding....

its the lie that would bother me, and 5 years is an especially big deal
 
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is his name atlguy by any chance? kidding....

its the lie that would bother me, and 5 years is an especially big deal
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[quote=Brook00;826878]I have been talking to this guy I met on EH for a short while. His profile said he is 35. When I asked him about his age, he said that he is 41. Should I end further communication with this guy?

I have no problem dating older men, however I feel like if he has to lie about his age what else is he lying about to me. If I didn’t asked him would he have told me his real age, and is he really 41. How do I know he is not really 45?

What should I do? When I asked him about it, he said that age is just a number and I should not let it stop us from communicating.
 
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This is something very basic that you should never lie about because it calls into question everything else you ever said.

About 10 yrs ago there was this woman who I got to talking who I met through a board like this and she did something similar where she lied about her age by about 5 years (she was really older). I stopped talking to her after that point.
 
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By lying about his age, he's getting himself matched to women who would have excluded him. So he's pursuing what he wants and ignoring what they want. Not an attractive quality in a mate.

And oh yeah, liar liar ...
 
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Brook00 wrote :

What should I do? When I asked him about it, he said that age is just a number and I should not let it stop us from communicating.
Maybe you should tell him you're 45. See if it stops him from communicating with you.
 
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Shelby wrote :
Maybe you should tell him you're 45. See if it stops him from communicating with you.
That would be hysterical.
 
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Shelby wrote :
Maybe you should tell him you're 45. See if it stops him from communicating with you.
Send him pic of your mom (no offense to her) as "current" pic you didn't have available before

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Sorry had to happen to you. Not a good representation of all men.

Using this approximation, it can be shown that ~95% of this distribution's probability lies within 2 standard deviations of the mean.
 
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