olrowe is offline olrowe Post #1  November 21,2009, 7:12pm
olrowe's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Nov 2009

Posts: 53

See profile

I met this man in his mid 50s. We communicated extensively for 3 weeks but have only met last weekend. After our meeting, he came back to see me in 2 days. We live over 500 miles apart. Repeatedly, he has told me:
"you are and will be in my thoughts all day..!!
I am so "smitten"...in all the warm and happy ways.."
On our 2nd date he said we are in a relationship.

I am really smitten and am curious to know if this is the real deal?
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  November 21,2009, 7:27pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,651

See profile

In my view, falling for someone quickly is a big risk. Some people do, and sometimes that works out, but making large changes in your life on that basis is to cast aside wisdom.

I suggest a long, thoughtful pause before every communication - to check if it makes sense.

Then, a consideration of whether the distance can be resolved ...

Caution and care ... good luck!
 
  Reply With Quote
PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #3  November 21,2009, 7:36pm

Unregistered

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 6,908

See profile

Sorry...it's understandable to be falling pretty quickly.
But saying that you're in a relationship after your 2nd date? That's mighty darn fast.
 
  Reply With Quote
Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #4  November 22,2009, 1:49am
Mokkesofie's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 8,463

See profile

olrowe wrote :

I met this man in his mid 50s.

On our 2nd date he said we are in a relationship.

I am really smitten and am curious to know if this is the real deal?
How old are you yourself, not to offend you but you do sound a bit immature/gullible. You don't have a relationship that quick and it's impossible to tell if it's the real deal already. But if you are that smitten, give it a shot and only time will tell. Be careful though, he might not be all what you think he is.
 
  Reply With Quote
littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #5  November 22,2009, 9:49am
littlebluemon…'s Avatar

Unregistered

Joined: Jul 2008

Posts: 13,649

See profile

Actions. Not words.

People can say anything but what they do shows us who they are. This takes time.

No one can determine whether or not he's genuine except you, and you can't do that after three weeks of email and two dates.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« "Starting from scratch" after depression: Lost cause? | Ask a Dating Expert | Trying to meet my neighbor »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
How do you tell the difference between someone running a scam and a genuine match? Mr. Nice Guy Using eHarmony 12 March 7,2011 4:50pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Does he date women his own age? Who pays? If he still hasn't called by tonight, should you call him? I can understand his read. It doesn't sound like you'll lose any sleep over Bill if you never ... ” –  Carole1520

Join the “My first "Matchmaker" date” discussion

“JNS - the way I handle these sparse/photoless profiles is to Archive them. If there is no photo, you can send a photo nudge. Also, keep an eye on the updates section on your home page. There it will ... ” –  mitchell175

Join the “Sparse profiles.” discussion

“ Thank you for your feedback, Sweetnectar. I've actually stopped the smoking thing because I'm not even sure why I do it when drinking. But I've also stopped receiving matches for now! No other ... ” –  Scott_in_LA

Join the “Profile and Pics Review, Please (M/38)” discussion

“List red flags for men Moderators are watching Get back on topic” –  harnomygirl

Join the “RED flags for men” discussion

“Here's the ad. Want your hair blown back? Trojan Vibrations Commercial Neighbors - YouTube You poor thing! Were you bad? Tweet ... This is the one, though now you did make me have to watch all ... ” –  Shelby

Join the “What kind of add you see on this board?” discussion

“That's the whole point of me posting here instead of saying all this to him. Because I KNOW it's too much. So that's what I'm saying - I am backing off. I'm not pressing. I put the ball in his court ... ” –  Holiday_HH

Join the “I think I blew it...” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 12:00pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0