sadears is offline sadears Post #1  November 21,2009, 7:07pm
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I have chronic fatigue syndrome. When do you share something like that? It's somewhat under control...though I can't eat wheat/gluten and lactose. The problem is it's an energy issue. How do you respond when the guy says he wants someone who has his energy levels...whatever that means.
 
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I do not favor disclosing medical or other perceive deficiencies in dating profiles, communication, or initial meetings.

For one thing, you have no way to know what your matches are looking for, while disclosure sounds like "woe is me."

My belief is that disclosure is only relevant when it impacts a selected activity; for instance, if your match suggests an activity which you can't do or that involves too high a risk, then that is the time to disclose.

Obviously, you need to be judicious about this, as you do not want to waste time and money on people who will ultimately dump you anyway once they find out.
 
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I agree to a certain extent. However, we're not talking about pollin allergies. This affects me daily, even the food I eat. I saw a post somewhere here from a woman asking the same thing because she has MS. I understand her concern.

I don't see it as "woe is me," I see it as "this is me." I just want to be upfront. I mean going to Olive Garden isn't an option...bread and pasta? Neither is pizza. Either one would send me to bed for a week.

So, I guess when it comes to this particle person, the answer is end the communication. If he wants someone who has his energy level, it must be high, and I can't guarantee that.
 
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The sooner you tell him the truth, the better. If he really likes and cares about you, it doesn't matter what you have. If he finds out later, the more devastating the effect on both of you.
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Wait until you have actually had a few dates with someone. Don't accept any that are beyond your physical capabilities, and don't worry about it. It will probably take a while before you get a date at all, much less a second or third, so why set yourself up for disappointment before anything concrete happens? There is a limit to what you should be telling strangers on the net IMHO, blurting that out to someone you baerly know, well why would you want to do that?

Question: Have you been diagnosed properly? Are you living on the celiac diet? Totally lactose free?

I have issues with gluten and lactose which cause chronic fatigue for me. Looked like CFS for a long while. These are auto immune system issues, so there potentially is something around you that is doing this to you.

You can get gluten free dishes at a lot of the restaurants around today, check their websites.

Now a serious question here, and I believe you should ponder it for a while - Is this disease what you are or something you have?

If you want to talk about CFS, gluten and lactose intolerance further, feel free to send me a private message.

IMHO don't overshare with strangers......

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