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estee is offline estee Post #1  November 18,2009, 9:26am
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I met this guy like a month ago,..while viewing his profile befor we met in person,..i did noticed that he did look abit older than the actual age he wrote on his profile. but i didnt let that stop me from meeting with him in person, but when i did finally met him in person,..he really did even look alot more older than the age he wrote on his profile. in my mind,..i just said there will be no second date, although the first date was quite ok,..but the age thing makes me dont want to go further. and he has been writing me all this while asking me for a second date and how he is interested in me. but i felt he probably might have lied about his age,..and i have not been replying most of his emails because i dont know how to tell him that he looks alot older than what he wrote on his profile thats why i dont want a second date.

But how do i ask him about the age thing?,..because i know alot of people do cut down on thier age.
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Does the specific number really matter? If you feel he's too old for you, then he's too old for you.

You could just say "it's too much of an age difference", or you could just say "I just don't see a future here" or whatever. You don't have to go out with someone just because they want to go out with you!
 
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Well....you could just point blank confront him with that, but really what's the point? I mean you are obviously not attracted to him so his actual age really does not matter does it? The best you can do is let him know that you are not interested any further and that's that.
 
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Well....you could just point blank confront him with that, but really what's the point? I mean you are obviously not attracted to him so his actual age really does not matter does it? The best you can do is let him know that you are not interested any further and that's that.
What I don't get is....if she isn't interested in him why even worry about this. Just tell him she isn't interested and good luck. Unless she actually might be interested.
 
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THAT THE THING AOUT DATING MOST MEN DO LOOK OLDER THEN THEIR AGE AN IT SOME TIME DO NOT MATCH THE PICTURE IN THE PROFILE AS WELL WHAT THEY WRITE.. IN HOPE YOU DO NOT MIND AN OVER LOOK THAT CAUSE THAT HOW THEY SEE THEIR SELF. ONE YOU CAN JUST ASK HIS AGE.. AND THEN SAY IT NICELY THAT YOU HAD A OKAY TIME WITH HIM BUT HE IS NOT WHAT YOU HAD IN MIND OR YOUR NOT WHAT IAM ATTRACTED TOO AN YOU WISH HIM WELL IN HIS SREACH.....
 
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THAT THE THING AOUT DATING MOST MEN DO LOOK OLDER THEN THEIR AGE AN IT SOME TIME DO NOT MATCH THE PICTURE IN THE PROFILE AS WELL WHAT THEY WRITE.. IN HOPE YOU DO NOT MIND AN OVER LOOK THAT CAUSE THAT HOW THEY SEE THEIR SELF. ONE YOU CAN JUST ASK HIS AGE.. AND THEN SAY IT NICELY THAT YOU HAD A OKAY TIME WITH HIM BUT HE IS NOT WHAT YOU HAD IN MIND OR YOUR NOT WHAT IAM ATTRACTED TOO AN YOU WISH HIM WELL IN HIS SREACH.....

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Well....you could just point blank confront him with that, but really what's the point? I mean you are obviously not attracted to him so his actual age really does not matter does it? The best you can do is let him know that you are not interested any further and that's that.

The age matters alot. and am not interested in him because of the age ( he looks older than he said). is just that i didnt know how to confront him with the age thing, but now with the answer's am getting in here now,..i do know how to put a stop to him sending me more mails.
 
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[quote=Sassafras54

You could just say "it's too much of an age difference", or you could just say "I just don't see a future here" or whatever. You don't have to go out with someone just because they want to go out with you![/quote]

Also thanks to you sassafras,..you said it all.

and thanks to you all fo the answer's...love you all.
 
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misswright wrote :
THAT THE THING AOUT DATING MOST MEN DO LOOK OLDER THEN THEIR AGE AN IT SOME TIME DO NOT MATCH THE PICTURE IN THE PROFILE AS WELL WHAT THEY WRITE.. IN HOPE YOU DO NOT MIND AN OVER LOOK THAT CAUSE THAT HOW THEY SEE THEIR SELF. ONE YOU CAN JUST ASK HIS AGE.. AND THEN SAY IT NICELY THAT YOU HAD A OKAY TIME WITH HIM BUT HE IS NOT WHAT YOU HAD IN MIND OR YOUR NOT WHAT IAM ATTRACTED TOO AN YOU WISH HIM WELL IN HIS SREACH.....
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Why confront if you're not interested? Why not just hit close ...
 
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