estee is offline estee Post #1  November 12,2009, 6:01am
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I started exchanging mails with one of my matches in eharmony and while he was sending me mails,..he always include his mobile number telling me that his subcriptin will end soon and that i can contact him with that mobile number anytime,.this continue for a while. including his mobile number each time he wrote me.and i did also gave him my yahoo id so we can also chat sometimes. so i decided to send him a text message with the mobile number he gave me and i also send an email to his personal email address, but i never got any reply from him.

And he send me an email telling me,.."oh my mobile got some problem and i will have to get a new one soon,..yes i recieved your text message" he didnt write me back after that and that really didnt bother me. until i was online in yahoo messager and he came online started his story again,.."oh am sorry my mobile is,..blablablabla ok,.i would have called you back but i lost your number,..ok,..here is my mobile number,.you can text or call me" i refused to take down his number and gave him my mobile number. after that he didnt text or call,..its been like more than three months now. i just recived an email from him this morning preaching to me all over again a new sermon,.." that he is sorry,..lets start over again,..that he got the swine flu, but God has healed him and he is getting better now,..he moved to a new apartment and he believes God that am made for him,..that i should please write him back telling him my mind"

is this guy sick in his mind? sould i even bother writing him back?
 
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I see that you wrote this in May, and hopefully you didn't reply to him again. This man sounds as if he is married and either trying to find women is cheat with, or just trying to boost his ego by keeping you just in his line of sight, just in case.

You should know by now that it a man is interested in you, he will call, write, text, email, see you, make arrangements to see you, and everything in between. If he's not he wont. This man sounds fishy and I wouldn't be surprised if he wasn't even who he claimed to have been.

Chalk this up to a bad eharmony experience and then move on. Also, take Eharmony's advice. They go by the honor system but you don't have to. If you are interested in a man, you may want to consider a background check on him.
 
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Don't bother. This guy has issues, and really do you care what they are? Takes all kinds to make a world, and sadly you may have run into a not so nice one.

3+ months, no meet, and a lot of blah blah blah, although I rarely refer to interaction with another human being as a waste of time, IMHO this is.

It is the internet, fortunately there are real people out there, forget this and let yourself find one of those.

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I'm all for giving people a second chance, as long as their reason for 'poofing' are legit. The reasons he gave you are not that far fetched. Actions do speak louder than words.

My decision to email him back would be based from the past communication I had with that person, My interest level at that time would deterime if I would reply to an email now.
From what you posted. It looks as if all you did was exchange a few emails. He then turned it into a game..In this case I would let this one go. Too many negative factors, leading me to believe he may not be very stable.
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CapnCrunch23 wrote :
I'm all for giving people a second chance, as long as their reason for 'poofing' are legit. The reasons he gave you are not that far fetched. Actions do speak louder than words.

My decision to email him back would be based from the past
communication I had with that person, My interest level at that time would deterime if I would reply to an email now.
From what you posted. It looks as if all you did was exchange a few emails. He then turned it into a game..In this case I would let this one go. Too many negative factors, leading me to believe he may not be very stable.

Nothing seems to be stable about him,..his emails,communication...his cofession og God this,..God that,..although am a bornagain christain too. but his words are difficult to explain,.believe me. and the email he sent is full "pity party". not writing him back will help him more better i think.
we only exchange a few emails.
 
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Not writing him back is a good idea.

IMO he may just be a sly devil. If he knows you were a b.a.c. He could have been using God in his emails to make you want to communicate with him again.

I think you are dodging a bullet here..
 
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Dear Estee,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice (eHA) and thanks for posting.

No, do not write him back or communicate with him in any way further. Additionally, block him in whatever forums you can.

This guy does not sound emotionally healthy. Don't give him a second thought or bother to look back at him for even a moment in your rearview mirror! To do so is playing with fire and will eventually lead to great unhappiness on your part.

Be wise, be prudent . . . . Life is way too short for behavior like this.

Find a stable, secure, mature, emotionally healthy man with strong core values and good morals who holds solid values and who knows the Author of love!

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javajava5 wrote :
Dear Estee,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice (eHA) and thanks for posting.

No, do not write him back or communicate with him in any way further. Additionally, block him in whatever forums you can.

This guy does not sound emotionally healthy. Don't give him a second thought or bother to look back at him for even a moment in your rearview mirror! To do so is playing with fire and will eventually lead to great unhappiness on your part.

Be wise, be prudent . . . . Life is way too short for behavior like this.

Find a stable, secure, mature, emotionally healthy man with strong core values and good morals who holds solid values and who knows the Author of love!

JavaJava5



Thanks alot javajava,..thats really the right thing to do.
and thanks to all of you who left a comment,..love you all
 
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Honestly this guy sounds really irresponsible.. I would run the other way.. Hes not into you if he playing games.. How old is he? He doesn't really seem serious about getting to know you better. Move on...
 
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There are times when silence has the loudest voice. ~Leroy Brownlow

Why start anything with someone that has already left you once? Let him be a problem for someone else to deal with.
 
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