Homer231 is offline Homer231 Post #1  November 8,2009, 9:01pm
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Essentially, I met someone, and we have been in contact for two weeks. During that two-week period we have gone out three times(one of those times with her 12 yr-old daughter..pizza place).

We did the text messaging thing and phone calls, but that has decreased significantly. On her part mostly, and I decreased as well(call it ego and not trying to look desperate).

I asked her out for a Saturday night date, on a Monday, and she said Maybe. When I reminded her again on Thursday, she said no(family problems). However, she went out on Friday night till 3 a.m.(Obviously the family problems did not affect a Friday night out). Her cell for some strange reason that Friday night called my phone, and all I could hear were the loud voices and partying associated with a bar. Definitely not an intentional call to me.

I then got the "Have a good day" text on Saturday afternoon....I replied "You too" and nothing since.

The confusion is this...she lives VERY CLOSE BY. Not once has she asked me to meet even for a minute to say HI, or suggested follow up dates etc.

A women friend of mine basically told me that I am of little interest to her, and I was blind. I was advised that any woman who has interest will try to make some time for you...and her living so close by just didn't add up.

So am I being played? I know rejection sucks, and in some people they just try harder until they get the message. So any advice will help. One last thing, not once have we kissed, except for on the cheek.
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  November 9,2009, 1:23am
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She's just not that into you.
 
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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #3  November 9,2009, 2:38am
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if it is incomprehensible don't bother ... like how hard is it to communicate clearly
 
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This is beyond simple - when someone does not communicate with you it's because they are not that into you. Move on.
 
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Homer231 is offline Homer231 Post #5  November 9,2009, 9:46am
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Yup...I guess sometimes I fool myself and don't see clearly; all the signs of not being fully interested were there; and I just made excuses to explain them. Live and Learn...
 
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