glendagoodwitch is offline glendagoodwitch Post #1  November 6,2009, 7:31pm
glendagoodwit…'s Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Nov 2009

San Diego

Posts: 5

See profile

It's been more than 40 years since I had to greet the world as anything but part of a couple. I have no idea what to say to anyone even on eharmony. The questions in the guided communication have nothing to do with anything I want to know about a person...male or female. I am not getting replies when I initiate. No one is initiating with me. What is the thing? I really don't know how. I have wonderful friends but they are all in pairs. I feel like an extra appendage.
I am smart, fun, ready to get back into actually living but I feel like the best idea may be just to go back to bed.
I have lost my husband and best friend. I am lonely beyond words. I really need to be alive. I promise not to go all maudlin on you. give me a chance team. The name of that tornado was cancer. It isn't my name.
help.
Glenda
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  November 6,2009, 7:49pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

NJ

Posts: 30,740

See profile

I feel like the best idea may be just to go back to bed.

Hey, me too!

Regarding the eHarmony ... umm ... uh ... it ... well, it may take ... a .. very ... long ... time ... and then, they disappear on you.

Happens to all of us.

If you're going to sue the online dating it's a good idea to spend some time here or eslewhere to come up to speed with how it works. Until then, just think of it as the Wild West.
 
  Reply With Quote
Sassafras54 is online now Sassafras54Advice Official Moderator Post #3  November 6,2009, 9:29pm
Sassafras54's Avatar

Your Community Coordinator

Moderator

Joined: Oct 2009

San Pedro, CA

Posts: 8,291

See profile

Hi Glenda! I'm sorry for your loss.

If you read some threads, especially in "Using eHarmony", you will find that a lot of matches never initiate or respond. Don't take it personally. You have to hang in there.

If you don't like Guided Communication, you could use FastTrack. But since this is a whole new world to you, perhaps you would find the pacing of GC helpful?

There is a group on this board for widows/widowers to talk with each other; you might like it: Widow / Widower's Group -eHarmony Advice

Good luck!
 
  Reply With Quote
glendagoodwitch is offline glendagoodwitch Post #4  November 7,2009, 1:01pm
glendagoodwit…'s Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Nov 2009

San Diego

Posts: 5

See profile

I don't understand the response mr lion. Sue who? For what?
 
  Reply With Quote
neardc is offline neardc Post #5  November 7,2009, 1:21pm
neardc's Avatar

Kumbaya, people!

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Near DC (duh!)

Posts: 7,738

See profile

I don't understand the response mr lion. Sue who? For what?
I think that was just a little typo : If you're going to USE the online dating...
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #6  November 8,2009, 9:07am
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

NJ

Posts: 30,740

See profile

Er, yes. That would be "use."

Confused already?
 
  Reply With Quote
LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #7  November 8,2009, 10:03am

Unregistered

Joined: May 2008

SoCal

Posts: 7,705

See profile

lol! one little word can matter a whole lot....
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“It's important to understand the way a site works. Rigidly assuming / insisting that eH works likes all the others you're used to isn't utilizing the site functions to your best advantage. No.... ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “First contact on eHarmony, smile, questions, email?” discussion

“ If you have yet to meet, you don't know him or whether you two will form a connection. Connections formed over e-mail tend to be fantasies. You will see this echoed over and over by experienced ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “How do i recoonect with him again?” discussion

“ Then it's a bit premature to worry about being friend-zoned. The first step is to go out on dates! What specific steps did you try? How many women did you ask out in person? Did you buy a ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “For women to answer: How to avoid the friend zone” discussion

“ This is an old thread. She asked this in 2010. By now they are likely very exclusive or very over. ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “is there a reason to ask if we're exclusive?” discussion

“ I'm sure he wouldn't get that. And I can't be sure that was the actual message. But it sems kind of likely to me.” –  boomer_gal

Join the “Why am I not successful?” discussion

“Hi eccemuliere and welcome to eHA.On an internet forum like eHA, you're going to get a wide variety of responses; some you'll like and some you won't. It's best to focus on the ones that speak to ... ” –  Sassafras54

Join the “Being blown off, or something else?” discussion

“ Although I have ignored my gut at times, in hindsight it's always been right, in terms of recognizing bad choices. QUOTE] But once we realize our past mistakes, we can use our reason to clue us ... ” –  eccemuliere

Join the “Is Your Gut Leading - or Misleading You?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 1:06pm.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0