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What are things I should consider?
Some people need to masterbate, and i think doctors even say its a healthy activity.

Some people need VISUAL stimulus to acheive that goal.

If your not in the mood, then in comes pornography.

Its not always an addiction,but it can easily be.

Is the porn affecting your sex life? If it is, then it could be an addiction.

Mayby there is a specific area that hes not getting satisfaction, and thus turns to porn to find (in some degree) that satisfaction.

You need to discuss with your partner WHY they look at porn. Find out, get their responce and actually listen to what they are saying (instead of arguing like most people do about this subject).

Chances are there is a reason they turn to porn in small amounts, and things that you can do to reduce that amount.

It will take trying to understand why... from their perspective.
- November 7th, 2009, 04:48 am
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Consider couple's counseling. If indeed his watching is an addiction, then he may need help. NO relationship that makes you feel disrespected or inadequate is worth keeping. Counseling may help you better determine whether this issue can be resolved and, more importantly, whether he is the right man for you.

Trust that you're a woman of high value, love yourself enough to recognize this.

If he doesn't see what you're worth and respects who you are, then move on without him.... It might be difficult given the time and effort invested in this relationship, but it may be better to cut ties now than to find yourself posting this concern 1 yr. later.


.....Best wishes :-)
- November 8th, 2009, 10:30 pm
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