Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Ask a Dating Expert See what our experts have to say, and then weigh in with your own advice. This discussion board is a great place to discover the wisdom of the group.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
moon1336 moon1336 is offline
moon1336's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 5

See profile

( I hope this does not get post twice. I am new to this site. So bare with me when it comes to figuring this out.)

Recently, I have found my boyfriend's porn collection. Now it does not bother me that fact he watches at porn, but his porn collection the females are overweight by at least 300 pounds. I found this weird and funny because he makes fun of ladies who are overweight. He is so harsh to them, yet he jerks to them. I am so confused.

I am 4'11 and barely 100 pounds. It makes me wonder why is he with me? I believe maybe he is secretly ashamed because his friends would make fun of him. He cares way to much about what people think of him. I hope I am not a cover up, so he can show people that he is "normal." In today's society you have (I'm using that word lightly) to be with skinny girls. I am not saying you cannot be with a big lady, NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT. But from friends who are big they say its a lot harder out there to find a mate who will accept their bodies.

So what do you think? Am I being a drama queen? Should I question him about? .__. So CONFUZZZ! lol.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:09 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
Bearwolf102 Bearwolf102 is offline
Bearwolf102's Avatar

Bearwolf102 Loveing life

Quick Study

Join Date: Jun 2009

Posts: 172

See profile

Wow. I am not sure how to best handle this if I were in your shoes. However I will say that before you create a back story for all this talk to him about it. Porn generaly is very distorted and can be very harmfull to relationships. The fact is that you should be enough for him and it likely hurts you to think he isn't satisfied with you.

Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel.

Good luck,
Bearwolf102
- November 4th, 2009, 09:16 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
moon1336 moon1336 is offline
moon1336's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 5

See profile

Well we do not have sex, so i am okay with him to watching porn. He needs to relieves himself. But i did not know what type of porn he watched.
thanks.
Last edited by moon1336; November 4th, 2009 at 10:02 am.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:43 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
Sassafras54 Sassafras54 is online now
Sassafras54's Avatar

Veteran

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 1,319

See profile

Hi Moon,

There's another thread all about porn ...
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ce-please.html (need Advice please)

There are men who are attracted to very big women but can't accept that about themselves, or are afraid of other peoples' reactions to it. Yours may be one of those. Especially since you are so opposite of that.

Or it could be just a fantasy.

I would definitely ask him about it. You are not going to be happy if 10 years go by and then you find out he's not really attracted to you. Good luck!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:44 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
moon1336 moon1336 is offline
moon1336's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 5

See profile

Thanks I hope that thread helps!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:47 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#5   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

littlebluemonkeymind littlebluemonkeymind is offline
littlebluemonkeymind's Avatar

Power Poster

Join Date: Jul 2008

Posts: 8,716

See profile

I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
- November 4th, 2009, 07:51 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#6   Reply With Quote
LizziePooh LizziePooh is offline
LizziePooh's Avatar

LizziePooh would enjoy a song.

Power Poster

Join Date: May 2008

Posts: 5,172

See profile

littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
lol!
- November 4th, 2009, 08:00 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#7   Reply With Quote
Mokkesofie Mokkesofie is online now
Mokkesofie's Avatar

Virtuoso

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 3,768

See profile

littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?
+1
- November 5th, 2009, 07:39 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#8   Reply With Quote
notyet notyet is offline
notyet's Avatar

notyet *****

Virtuoso

Join Date: Nov 2008

Posts: 3,834

See profile

littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I'm confused too because your profile lists you as male.

Not that there's anything wrong with that : )

But maybe you just checked the wrong box?

see thread title...

;-)
- November 5th, 2009, 08:19 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#9   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

« Is that a misstate that told the guy that I like? | Array | Online profile with only 1 pic from shoulders up??? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Guys please help.....I'm SO confused... kmc1977 Dating 20 December 4th, 2009 11:59 am
Closure after a breakup????? yoga_gal Dating 55 November 18th, 2009 09:23 am
Matching/Flexible Matching-What Criteria?? Confused DIVA20011 Using eHarmony 1 October 3rd, 2009 09:13 am
Sooooo confused..... kmc1977 Dating 15 September 10th, 2009 11:32 pm
Confused and heart sore confusedcougar Ask a Dating Expert 6 July 30th, 2009 07:08 pm

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“So men can drive women around but not the other way around? yes melman_2 they can. ” – Nanette

Join the “Rough Start” discussion

“ Kind of like calling people who consider themself spiritual but not religious "idiots"? I can link to the thread where you did this, if you like... Seriously, why not just pull my pigtails and ... ” – Faira

Join the “Getting Over My Girlfriend's Past Lovers?” discussion

“It varies...depends on the situation, level of relationship, etc. Since this happens on Sunday, I wouldn't sweat it yet..it's only Tuesday and some people do take sometime to cool off or to think ... ” – PY_2

Join the “How long is too long before you realize they "poofed".” discussion

“ I agree, tacky to bring up money. What if it was an expensive date, would he turn to you and say "Gee, I hope you are worth it". Money shouldn't be talked about that early. I bet you he is a ... ” – Spumone

Join the “That WAS a compliment... I think?!” discussion

“I'm really glad you checked in... I have heard of the condition you're describing; there are things that can be done for it. I think you're very courageous, and have got a lot more strength ... ” – Faira

Join the “Update” discussion

“I had my annual Super Bowl party on Sunday. I was smart and prepared the food on Saturday before my BF came over so I could relax with him instead of running around like a crazy woman. So...the BF ... ” – KiskaKitty

Join the “Monday, February 8th weekend and date roundup!” discussion

“I think the OP is most certainly correct. In a way I think one of the reasons why I turned to eHarmony is because I think too much, I am not the kind of guy that could easily meet women in a bar ... ” – stevex

Join the “Too much thinking going on here...” discussion

“WOW! You really do have a full plate. I would certainly let anyone you meet know up front that you are in fact very busy with a lot of things but that you would see said person as much as humanly ... ” – stevex

Join the “Dating when you are busy” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:13 pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2010, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0