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beautifulgenius Life feels like it's getting complicated....

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My boyfriend is coming to visit and my ex is still in my life because of our girls. I am worried about some tension and am looking for suggestions on if and when they meet.....

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Calling on all the heavy hitters like: Bravethestorm, LBMM, D_Lion, Hazmat ,Harvey7, JayJay, and the others for help. Thanx!!
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- November 3rd, 2009, 11:06 pm
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Well....if I was your boyfriend I'd want to see that your ex being 'still in your life' meant something along the lines of coming to your house, saying hi, picking up the girls....and saying goodbye.
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:21 pm
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is your ex cool?
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:36 pm
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not much to say unless you feel like elaborating on what "still in my life" means.
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:40 pm
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To me, still in my life means, still comes over to hang out and talk and stuff. If you wanted to say 'just picks up the kids and comes with you to parent teacher conferences' then say, "I still see him when he picks up my girls, but that is it.
- November 4th, 2009, 12:36 am
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cardguy wrote :
not much to say unless you feel like elaborating on what "still in my life" means.
Nothing other than we tolerate each other for the kids, talk only when we have to, and my bf already knows and understands all this. He knows there is nothing going on.
- November 4th, 2009, 03:40 am
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lil_lamb wrote :
is your ex cool?
He can be moody at times.
- November 4th, 2009, 03:42 am
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jayjay wrote :
Well....if I was your boyfriend I'd want to see that your ex being 'still in your life' meant something along the lines of coming to your house, saying hi, picking up the girls....and saying goodbye.
That's what he does.
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Is there a good way and /or bad way to do this??.... is maybe what I am asking. My bf is coming a long way, and in case he does end up meeting my ex, I want to know the most reasonable way , if there is such a way, to meet. I understand there is tension, I can already feel it, but there is no need for it. And the guys who have answered this are not telling me anything new. I guess we will just have to deal with it , as the situation arises.
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Well, take any advice from me with a grain of salt, but I think honesty is always the best policy. It might help to unobtrusively (re)state what's going on - such as "Oh, B is here to take the girls to the park" or "B, A is here from _________." Still, I think there's a limit to how much tension you can get rid of in a situation like that. As long as everyone is civil...
Good luck!
- November 4th, 2009, 04:09 am
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