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...I met and went out with a married man...
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- November 3rd, 2009, 07:57 pm
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If anyone would give feedback to these questions I would really appreciate it. I need to understand to move on.

I met and went out with a married man a few times within 3 months. At first everything was great, he told me everything. Later we just kept e-mails then he moved away. He has since come back because he is getting a divorce but he won't tell me, WHY?

1. If he was so into me and he said so many times why would he not give me his new phone number before moving even though he said he was.
2. Now that he's back he looked me up but under the circumstances he wasn't himself and held back (hugs and kisses) WHY?
3. Says that I'm a "friend" if so why didn't he respond to my e-mail when I asked if our relationship as friends is a problem
4. WHY, would he not tell the truth about getting a divorce
5. Did I scare him away by e-mailing him very nicely (and caring) that I caught him in a lie about where he's staying
6. If this meant something to him and he looked me up then why doesn't he reach out to me (is it because I am married & things for me are on the rocks as well but he knows)
7. Finally, if I'm spinning my wheels how do I move on and let go as everyone makes it so easy. Is he just a player? Does he have someone else already? or could he really be waiting for the divorce to finalize. Still makes no sense to me why the communication is almost non existant when in the beginning he couldn't talk to me enough,; maybe I'm just yesterday's news.
- November 3rd, 2009, 08:15 pm
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And apparently looking to us to advise her on how to cheat more successfully.

I think I'm offended.
should we suggest jerry springer then?

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- November 3rd, 2009, 08:26 pm
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
should we suggest jerry springer then?
Forget Letterman, more like Maury LOL
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:38 pm
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LOL, ahhh, cheaters. The dilemmas they go through...
- November 3rd, 2009, 10:22 pm
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Are you shocked that a man who would lie to his wife and break his vow to her would also choose to lie to you?

What makes you any different from her?

And if you're willing to cheat on your husband, what makes you any different from him?

Pot, kettle.
- November 3rd, 2009, 10:41 pm
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Sorry, had to say more.

Even though I know I shouldn't.

What bugs me about this whole situation is that I can see the non-cheating husband finding out about the situation, trying to fix it, finally giving up and then I end up dating him. Then I'M the one that has to listen to the tirades about awful women and how you can't trust any of them, and I'M the one who gets the suspicious attitude. Been there, done that, more than once.

Seems the people who cause the drama and heartbreak never have to deal with it in the long run.

End of rant.
- November 3rd, 2009, 10:47 pm
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CC loves it. when Chawks rants..

I can understand where you're coming from, I've been receiving end of that too.

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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
CC loves it. when Chawks rants..

I can understand where you're coming from I've.been on that end too.
Um.... Ditto!!
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:01 pm
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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
CC loves it. when Chawks rants...
alissag wrote :
Um.... Ditto!!
With the way tonight's topics are going, you should both be very happy campers!
- November 3rd, 2009, 11:04 pm
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