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Instead of answering each question specifically, I'll just give you my two cents; some of it is anecdotal.

First of all, why date a married man? Just... why?

Secondly, married men usually aren't looking for another relationship in the first place. They use and move on. One of my sisters friends was / is in the same position. She's dating a married man. Tells her this stuff all the time, then "goes back to his wife" only to keep fooling around on his wife. He is just stringing you along. It's as simple as that. He has you by the finger tip and can pull you to him any time he wants it, and he now knows it.

While this isn't necessarily true, I tend to err on the side of caution: once a cheater, always a cheater. If you two were to get into a relationship, could you trust him to not cheat on you? His wife probably thinks he isn't doing it. So what makes you think he won't do it to you? I bet his wife would use the same reasons!

Do yourself a favor and move on.
- November 3rd, 2009, 03:00 pm
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So....when you get MARRIED, you stop DATING other people. Unless all parties involved agree to date other people.

And when you're MARRIED and you're cheating on your spouse by DATING, you really can't expect truth or honor or fairness or any of those things, can you?

Is he a player? Least of your worries.
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:42 pm
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Didn't we already see this same thread about a week or so ago?

Anyway, no sympathy here. My ex cheated on me throughout our entire lonnngggg marriage while I took care of him, our home, our children (which was why I ended up staying with him longer than I should have), and worked a full-time job. Sorry to be so harsh (well, not really), you don't need advice - you need to get some integrity. The two of you deserve each other.
- November 3rd, 2009, 05:57 pm
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[quote=kneo24;785847]
Secondly, married men usually aren't looking for another relationship in the first place. They use and move on.

Agreed. Even if is ever free he probably won't want you - he will just move on to someone else. Why should he trust you anyway? If the two of you do end up getting together you can't even trust each other!!
- November 3rd, 2009, 06:00 pm
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I'll keep it short to avoid saying anything regrettable (and this advice applies to everyone anyway): you should focus on practicing the kind of character you desire in others.
Last edited by cardguy; November 3rd, 2009 at 10:25 pm. Reason: typos as usual :P
- November 3rd, 2009, 06:13 pm
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Time to face yourself and have serious talk about why are you so into man that is not available. What made you think you deserve this and what it is you would much rather have.

best of luck to you
- November 3rd, 2009, 07:04 pm
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kevin76 wrote :
Mmmm, good point. I went with the assumption that he was already moved away from her and the divorce was a sure thing.
But as was pointed out, the OP said he 'is getting' a divorce, not that he has already gotten one.

Ever think of the possibility that if his wife's lawyer finds out about his affair, she will clean him out in the divorce proceedings?
I'm sure he's thought about it.

The OP wrote he was "lying" about the divorce. So either she assumes he's getting a divorce and not telling her or he lied that he was getting the divorce and isn't. That's what I'm understanding. So most likely he's just with her on the side and his wife doesn't know a thing about this.

The thing that gets me most is that the OP is married too. Ugh. Just...yeah.
- November 3rd, 2009, 07:12 pm
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Jacquesne wrote :
I'm sure he's thought about it.

The OP wrote he was "lying" about the divorce. So either she assumes he's getting a divorce and not telling her or he lied that he was getting the divorce and isn't. That's what I'm understanding. So most likely he's just with her on the side and his wife doesn't know a thing about this.

The thing that gets me most is that the OP is married too. Ugh. Just...yeah.
And apparently looking to us to advise her on how to cheat more successfully.

I think I'm offended.
- November 3rd, 2009, 07:22 pm
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PY_2 wrote :
My apologies, I stopped reading after this sentence. My esteemed members of this board will give you their .02
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- November 3rd, 2009, 07:56 pm
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I know I'm offended, and I haven't even been participating in these threads!
- November 3rd, 2009, 07:57 pm
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