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Yeah, eHarmony limits who can see your profile...and race, sadly, is one of the factors. I am an African American female as well. The problem I found is that if someone saw my profile, regardless of what race they thought they wanted, they may be enchanted by my profile and want to write. But this can NEVER happen because eHarmony will not match us if he doesn't click that little box.

The irony with eHarmony is they advertise these "26 dimensions of compatibility" as though they are matching people on a deeper level...but race is LITERALLY only skin deep...so why limit matches to race if they may be compatible in other ways...it's silly.
- November 18th, 2009, 10:01 pm
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cherrypeach wrote :

The irony with eHarmony is they advertise these "26 dimensions of compatibility" as though they are matching people on a deeper level...but race is LITERALLY only skin deep...so why limit matches to race if they may be compatible in other ways...it's silly.
You are incorrect. It's 29 dimensions of incompatibilty.
Last edited by PY_2; November 19th, 2009 at 09:15 pm. Reason: Daggumit, I meant 29 dimensions of compatibility! Sorry EH!
- November 19th, 2009, 09:14 pm
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Ethnicity, nationality, etc do not matter when looking for love ... they never really did actually. Love transcends all of that. I understand that people want to share their culture with the same kind of people though. No one should be criticized either way and when love is found, regardless of who that person is, the man or woman should stick with the person!
- November 19th, 2009, 09:42 pm
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As much as i hate to say it. yes it sometimes does matter. I am portuguese and my daughters father was african american and we had many struggles threw our relationship with having to do with our diffrent backgrounds.

I am not saying this is always true. and i dont think it always has to do with race exactly. but more about morals, beliefs, religion and lifestyle in general.

Some people feel more comfortable being within in their own heritage because it simplifys things. And then others are more adaptable.
- November 20th, 2009, 12:27 am
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Yeah, I think we take alot for granted in the United States now, especially re: ideals surrounding "equality", "multi-culturalism" and "diversity". Although there was a time in our own history that even European nationalities feuded bitterly in urban areas like New York and Chicago (Italians vs Irish, etc.). And remember things like "West Side Story"?

While only a few decades ago, just the idea of marrying outside your religion (!) was a huge deal...
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