Does a person's race still matter when looking for love


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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #11  November 5,2009, 9:33am

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Race doesn't matter, it's culture that's important.
One of the shorter responses on this board. But darn bulls-eye. You must be a sniper in real life!

Let me add though sometimes unfortunately people do attach certain cultural stigma to certain races and it's unfortunate.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Let me add though sometimes unfortunately people do attach certain cultural stigma to certain races and it's unfortunate.
Exactly. This is why I think race, unfortunately does still matter.
 
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I think it is a problem. I say that because I don't see a lot of non-black men with black women. Some yes, but its the exception. So based on what I observe I'd say its really still a problem.
 
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calmascanbe wrote :
Is a person's race still an important factor in choosing love?
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I think that I read somewhere that African American women are the least likely to be selected on on-line dating sites. Unfortunately, there are a lot of negative stereotypes about black women floating around that make men of other races think twice about dating us. It doesn't mean that you won't be successful, just means that it may take you a bit more time than women of other ethnic groups.
 
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I hate to jump on the 'woe is me' bandwagon...but same with Asian men (at least where I live). I deal with it much better now than before though, so all is good.

Hey I could've taught them that f(x)+d-1 does NOT equal f(x)-3/dx+2. But does any smart women wanna know that?? Nooooo!!!
 
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calmascanbe wrote :
Well, thank you all for the feedback. I will look into my personal profile, and agree it could be the regions. Legend29, what do you put down as your ethnic background. On eH, I put other or African-American.
I have expanded my search to anywhere in the U.S., and do see more matches avail, but after only being with eH, and having close to 400matches closed, a bit of a skeptic. I know I am not looking for hundreds of potential matches, just the one, and suppose that is what I will keep in mind. Thanks again for all the responses.
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Oh, expand you searches to encompass Australia; we'll ook afte you right!
 
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PY_2 wrote :
I hate to jump on the 'woe is me' bandwagon...but same with Asian men (at least where I live).
Really?????

I am surprised at this-I've always thought this was a pretty race free zone.

Its sad that 'isms' are still rearing their ugly heads all over...racism, ageism, sexism,
when basically all any of us are looking for is a nice person with manners and some intelligence who is attractive enough to not frighten young children and has a pleasant personality.

I did say basically because we each have our must haves and can't stands but race is so .... trivial. IMHO of course.
 
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Race doesn't matter to me. I've dated more non-Caucasian women than Caucasian ones.
 
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Race doesn't matter, but yes, culture certainly does, and unfortunately most times it's hard to separate the two. I know there are folks who'll say, "oh, we're all equal and none of that should matter, blah-blah!". But compatibility is so much about shared values, aesthetics, traditions, family and role expectations, etc.... and that's precisely what "culture" is all about.
 
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