sillygirl71 is offline sillygirl71 Post #1  October 28,2009, 5:42pm
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I have talked with and met people online. Went on some terriffic dates, had great connections and awesome chemisrty. But after spending time with them and thinking that the potential for a lasting relationship is in store, I get the excuse (that I find lame and insulting) "You are an awesome lady, but...(add anything you see fit here)". Dating is difficult enough, but when I hear this, I feel like giving up!!!
 
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Hang in there!

It's normal to get rejections along the way. It's better to get rejected earlier on then later when you're more emotionally involved.

I've been rejected by the *poof* mostly... dunno which is better, an email or a *poof*... but that's not worth dwelling on!

Keep on talking to the matches and initiating more matches!
 
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"You are a nice guy, but....." I'm sure you've used this line before yourself. So think back to when you used it, what were the underlying reasons for using it? The same or similar reasons probably apply to you. When you keep having the same pattern over and over with the same identical result at the end, it's time to sit down and take a good look at what you are doing or not doing and start changing things around to see if you start getting a different result and getting warmer to what you want to have. And yes, dating is frustrating for everyone and meeting the right person is hard. We all hear ya on that one.
 
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Well looking at it from a glass half-full perspective...I'd say that means you are not just another "booty" call. Just because you connect and have chemistry doesn't a relationship make...you'll make lots of friends that way but not necessarily LT relationships. The issue may be who is in your current dating pool. If they are just looking to have a good time and not relationship minded to begin with...then it's a waste of your time being frustrated. It seems like life is weeding out all the wrong choices for you from the get go which means you are that much closer to getting the right "fit" for you
 
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sillygirl71 wrote :
I have talked with and met people online. Went on some terriffic dates, had great connections and awesome chemisrty. But after spending time with them and thinking that the potential for a lasting relationship is in store, I get the excuse (that I find lame and insulting) "You are an awesome lady, but...(add anything you see fit here)". Dating is difficult enough, but when I hear this, I feel like giving up!!!
what would you have them say?
 
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I've had my share of 'you're too nice'.

No problemo!
 
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Yeah, I have been in that role too. However, I look at it this way at least you didn't spend years with them to find it out.

Lately, I would say I have the luck of a losing lottery ticket.
 
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sillygirl71 wrote :
I get the excuse (that I find lame and insulting) "You are an awesome lady, but...(add anything you see fit here)". Dating is difficult enough, but when I hear this, I feel like giving up!!!
I would think the comment is intended to be tactful rather than an insult. It certainly doesn't mean you are defective...it's just a compatibility issue Trust me...you don't want to hear that you're an embarrassment to be seen with.
 
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"You are a nice guy, but....." I'm sure you've used this line before yourself. So think back to when you used it, what were the underlying reasons for using it? The same or similar reasons probably apply to you. When you keep having the same pattern over and over with the same identical result at the end, it's time to sit down and take a good look at what you are doing or not doing and start changing things around to see if you start getting a different result and getting warmer to what you want to have. And yes, dating is frustrating for everyone and meeting the right person is hard. We all hear ya on that one.

You mean a man rejects a woman the same way a woman rejects a man? GASP! Who would've thought...?
 
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You'll get used to it, we all do. Don't give up.
 
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