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I got a much different thought of why he might have cropped the pictures. Weight might not be the issue...maybe he's cropping out a wheelchair?

We've got a whole thread going in About You about this, (I'm disabled) and everybody's got different ideas of when and how to tell a potential significant other about their conditions. He could be shy about revealing it.

Obviously, I may be way off base here, but you might want to take a minute to ask yourself what your feelings would be if that turns out to be what's going on. I can tell you from my perspective that I'd much rather have someone honestly (nicely) tell me that they're not comfortable dating someone with a disability, versus stringing me along, or dumping me without a word.
- October 27th, 2009, 09:18 pm
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Yeah, I much prefer only 1 pic from the waist down
- October 27th, 2009, 09:31 pm
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I am going against most of the other posters.

Having only one picture up and it being a head shot is pretty standard.

But I see huge red flags that he even made mention of only having the one photo in his profile. Then his response is a huge flashing red light. Your gut reaction to all of this is telling enough. Something is not quite right with this guy. I say go with your gut.
- October 27th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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If someone only has 1 pic up, I will ask them to send me a couple more before meeting up -- even if they dont want to post more publicly, I'll offer for them to send them directly to me. I haven't had anyone refuse. I also ask for more pics if the posted pics are clearly (ha.ha.) blurry and taken from a phone or webcam. I don't see the problem with requesting more photos. If he doesn't want to send more, I would probably be skeptical as to whether it's really him in the photo or question his reasons for not sharing more.
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- October 27th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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Maybe in the rest of the photo he was shirtless so he cropped it out. We've all discussed what a big faux pas it is for a guy to post a shirtless photo.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:14 pm
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maybe he has robot legs.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:16 pm
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Here's and idea: ASK HIM!!!

"I do not mean to be rude, but because I am athletic / active, my lifestyle absolutely requires that my romantic friend be the same. Because I have been "burned" by limiting photos / misrepresentation (for which I would just walk away, period), I am concerned about all who do not have current / full photos. To save us both time and hardship, I would very much appreciate a recent , full length picture as I have provided for you.
I am eager to read your response."

If you can't communicate, what's the use?????

Who knows you might get something like this:


(that's me in green)
or

thats me in red (pic is looking straight up North most peak of 4Peaks, AZ)
or


Can you tell I wasn't one for close ups?

Laura's pic she posted is the one at the bottom (did not stop me)
In all fairness she did have one pic in "street clothes" (jeans, collared shirt, waist up)


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Take it from me, I have taken a chance and met several women with 1 tightly shot pic on their profiles thinking to give them the benefit of the doubt and was disappointed everytime. It is very awkward to tell someone you do not find them physically attractive even though they were being deceitful by having a vague representation of themself.
- October 27th, 2009, 10:45 pm
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Tank wrote :
Take it from me, I have taken a chance and met several women with 1 tightly shot pic on their profiles thinking to give them the benefit of the doubt and was disappointed everytime. It is very awkward to tell someone you do not find them physically attractive even though they were being deceitful by having a vague representation of themself.
There is a difference between being unattractive (ie. deceitful) and not having the physical qualities of the person one is looking for.

People that think that lying is a good way to start a relationship deserve to be alone (IMHO).
- October 28th, 2009, 12:08 am
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Hey Sawyer~

Give it a shot. What do you have to lose? A tank of gas? Make a plan for something you could do in this other town if he turns out to be a total dud--that way your day and gas isn't a total waste. But go in thinking that he doesn't like to take pictures. If he's got you with his words and personality and his picture is ok; why not. He could be the man you've been waiting for. Besides, it's only one date.
Like I said, if you get there and he has totally misrepresented himself, you have a back up plan; get out and go forth.
It's funny that your issue is that it's just a face picture. So often all the pictures I see are of men 30 feet from the camera with a baseball hat and sunglasses, in a shadow. Sometimes, it's a group of baseball hat/sunglass fans squinting into the sun (from 30 feet away) and no way of knowing which is the guy that is looking to date.
Good luck!
- October 28th, 2009, 01:05 am
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