jppwb is offline jppwb Post #1  October 21,2009, 4:58pm
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I joined eHarmony recently, signed up for 12 months, completed the Premium Personality Profile and on my Personality Profile under Extroversion, it says I'm Outgoing - this surprises me!

In the last year at work I took the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI); everyone in my department took it together. The MBTI was administered by our HR department. I came out as an INFP (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving). On the Introversion scale of 0 - 30, I was a 16. I've taken the MBTI several times over the years and it's always shown me to be an Introvert.

My EH Personality Profile stated:

A General Description of How You Interact with Others
People light you up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, you bring your energy and your friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and you come away pumped up. You can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And you're good at it.

Yikes, this is NOT me!

I am not a "hermit" type of Introvert, I don't like to be by myself all the time, but I am no social butterfly either.

I realize there is a lot of grey between "I" and "E" here but I'm concerned that women that read my Personality Profile will get a somewhat inaccurate understanding of me, especially with statements like "People light you up". I do enjoy people but I wouldn't state it as strongly as that.

Any thoughts on this? Thanks.
 
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Matches can't read your personality profile unless you let them. Go to your homepage, click My Settings, click Sharing Settings, click Personality Profile Sharing.

Wouldn't an Introvert score of 16 out of 30 mean you're only slightly introverted, just 2 points away from being an extrovert?

I wonder if taking a psych test at work would lead to a different score than if you took it at home (where you presumably took the eH test)?

H'mmm...guess I'd better read my own profile!
 
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When I took the MBTI, it (accurately) represented me at the extreme end of the introversion scale. (Yes, some would even call me a "hermit," though I do get out now and then, though only to social functions in which there is some other function than purely the social [gallery openings, lectures, conferences, etc.].) However, my eHarmony profile shows me as a balance of extro/intro. I wonder if the profiling is somehow skewed to extroversion, at least compared to the MBTI.
 
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Introvert/Extrovert is a sliding scale, and the 'personality descriptions' are templates - you'd get the same description whether you are mildly outgoing and kind of enjoy people's company or are wildly outgoing and live to be with people.

Generic descriptions rarely fit the individual, especially individuals who are on the line between two different personality types.
I can be social or antisocial depending on all kinds of factors - my personality is introverted because spending time with people makes me tired, but I'm good enough at socializing that most people think I'm an extrovert.

I wouldn't worry too much, I don't think most people put all their hopes on the personality descriptions. You can do what Sassafras suggested and hide the results, or you can just talk about it when you reach open communication and explain that it's a bit off in that one area.
 
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Pretty sure your results are automatically hidden unless you chose to disclose them. I don't think I've ever actually seen a match leave theirs open for reading to others.

Anyway, as for tests - tests get skewed quite a bit by your mood, surroundings, etc. and then you get the canned definition. Sounds like you are more in the middle of extro/intro rather than to either extreme. I would not put too much weight into a canned description and I doubt your matches are looking for delirious extremes.
 
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Can't say I ever bothered to read those. I would think that how you actually act would mean a lot more. Anyway, why can't you be both introverted and extroverted? Doesn't that pretty much depend on the situation?
 
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jppwb wrote :
I joined eHarmony recently, signed up for 12 months, completed the Premium Personality Profile and on my Personality Profile under Extroversion, it says I'm Outgoing - this surprises me!

In the last year at work I took the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI); everyone in my department took it together. The MBTI was administered by our HR department. I came out as an INFP (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving). On the Introversion scale of 0 - 30, I was a 16. I've taken the MBTI several times over the years and it's always shown me to be an Introvert.

My EH Personality Profile stated:

A General Description of How You Interact with Others
People light you up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, you bring your energy and your friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and you come away pumped up. You can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And you're good at it.

Yikes, this is NOT me!

I am not a "hermit" type of Introvert, I don't like to be by myself all the time, but I am no social butterfly either.

I realize there is a lot of grey between "I" and "E" here but I'm concerned that women that read my Personality Profile will get a somewhat inaccurate understanding of me, especially with statements like "People light you up". I do enjoy people but I wouldn't state it as strongly as that.

Any thoughts on this? Thanks.
I think that it means that you are moderate in both areas. I am both I & E as well.

I am not a social butterfly but the description still applies with me. I do light up with people in certain situations. I guess the most important part of that description might be "And you are good at it".

I work well with a team or when collaborating with others. I think that I have more energy in those situations than otherwise. A little more enthusiasm than when it is just me on my own.
 
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Mine came out pretty accurately as an extrovert, but the older I get the more introverted I have become.

I am not sure how much stock I'd put in the test here.
 
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Iconography wrote :
I wonder if the profiling is somehow skewed to extroversion, at least compared to the MBTI.
This could very well be the case. I tend to come out as a mild to moderate introvert on MBTI, and I came out a bit more middle of the road on the eH profile.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
Pretty sure your results are automatically hidden unless you chose to disclose them. I don't think I've ever actually seen a match leave theirs open for reading to others.
True, but the concern I would have if I felt the results weren't an accurate representation of my personality is that these are some of the criteria eH uses to match people. So they may be given 'inappropriate' matches, whether those matches ever see the profile or not.

OP, I would ask to retake the questionnaire if you feel the results are way off base.
 
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