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Well it's that time again folks - the dreaded holidays. Don't get me wrong, I love the season that is coming upon us way too quickly. I love spending time with my family, all the good food and gatherings...everything. But I am so tired of being without a significant other for the holidays. For some reason it feels worse for me this year. Too many memories. No date in so long I don't even want to say. Children gone. I have great friends and family but this is getting ridiculous. So I am trying to gear up for it so I won't feel depressed about it.

I could use some advice. Any of you out there who have also been alone during the holidays in years past how do you handle it? I don't mean just for one year. I am talking year after year after year. This will be my 10th holiday season alone. With all the changes I have had this year for the first time in many years I am really not looking forward to the holidays. Yep - in midst of spending time with all my wonderful family and friends I still feel horribly alone during the holidays. I could use some advice people!!!

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- October 20th, 2009, 07:02 pm
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :
Well it's that time again folks - the dreaded holidays. Don't get me wrong, I love the season that is coming upon us way too quickly. I love spending time with my family, all the good food and gatherings...everything. But I am so tired of being without a significant other for the holidays. For some reason it feels worse for me this year. Too many memories. No date in so long I don't even want to say. Children gone. I have great friends and family but this is getting ridiculous. So I am trying to gear up for it so I won't feel depressed about it.

I could use some advice. Any of you out there who have also been alone during the holidays in years past how do you handle it? I don't mean just for one year. I am talking year after year after year. This will be my 10th holiday season alone. With all the changes I have had this year for the first time in many years I am really not looking forward to the holidays. Yep - in midst of spending time with all my wonderful family and friends I still feel horribly alone during the holidays. I could use some advice people!!!

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Even in past relationships, I have always been alone for the holidays. It sucks and I hate it, especially when I sit there and watch my brother and his new wife play kissy-poo. BARF (but if would be okay if I was doing this with an SO of my own, mind you...lol)

I figure I have one of two choices: sit there and wallow in the loneliness (which would be silly because I'm a great catch and one of these days someone is going to realize that), OR I can enjoy the time with my family and friends. I choose the latter. Sure, I get those pangs once in awhile, and I admit that I usually avoid NYE all together, but I'm not going to let something like being alone ruin the holidays. It's just not worth it in the grand scheme of things, especially when I don't allow it to ruin any other days in the year.
- October 20th, 2009, 07:13 pm
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Even in past relationships, I have always been alone for the holidays. It sucks and I hate it, especially when I sit there and watch my brother and his new wife play kissy-poo. BARF (but if would be okay if I was doing this with an SO of my own, mind you...lol)
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brneyedangel...you make so much sense!

Yeah, the kissy-poo, kissy-face people really make me sick. Because really, who does all that making out in front of other people?? That's no way to behave!

I figure I have one of two choices: sit there and wallow in the loneliness(which would be silly because I'm a great catch and one of these days someone is going to realize that),

See, that just makes me feel worse because I know that I am a great catch also. But it seems like all the men I meet want to get straight to the sex and don't have any interest in getting to know me! They are not even rejecting who I am - they are just not even interested in getting to know who I am. Boo hoo!

OR I can enjoy the time with my family and friends. I choose the latter. Sure, I get those pangs once in awhile, and I admit that I usually avoid NYE all together, but I'm not going to let something like being alone ruin the holidays. It's just not worth it in the grand scheme of things, especially when I don't allow it to ruin any other days in the year.
....you are so right. I keep telling myself exactly what you wrote. I sincerely believe those things too. I'm sure I'll get over myself but I am definitely feeling a little scared this year because I don't think I have been this about the holidays down before.
- October 20th, 2009, 08:03 pm
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Hi Tiffany! I think you got a great answer in your subtitle. “You’re getting your groove back” what a great way to start a holiday season and New Year. I know holidays have an emotional “baggage” attached to them, and it can be a lonely place especially among friends and family. However you can let that get to you and take your holidays away from you or you can embrace it face the reality of life and go get your groove back.
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The choice is yours alone, and it sounds like you’re ready to do something about it.
I found that donating my time at the local hospital to all of those that are lonely and sick during the holidays have rewards beyond self satisfaction. I love interacting with people and after I hear their life stories my life’s problems sound like mere inconveniences.
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I wish you best of luck and my heart goes out to you. Just remember one thing you are the only one responsible for the way you feel.
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- October 20th, 2009, 08:35 pm
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Hi Tiffany! I think you got a great answer in your subtitle. “You’re getting your grove back” what a great way to start a holiday season and New Year. I know holidays have an emotional “baggage” attached to them, and it can be a lonely place especially among friends and family. However you can let that get to you and take your holidays away from you or you can embrace it face the reality of life and go get your groove back.

The choice is yours alone, and it sounds like you’re ready to do something about it.
I found that donating my time at the local hospital to all of those that are lonely and sick during the holidays have rewards beyond self satisfaction. I love interacting with people and after I hear their life stories my life’s problems sound like mere inconveniences.

I wish you best of luck and my heart goes out to you. Just remember one thing you are the only one responsible for the way you feel.

Happy Halloween
- October 20th, 2009, 08:44 pm
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Hi Tiffany! I think you got a great answer in your subtitle. “You’re getting your grove back” what a great way to start a holiday season and New Year. I know holidays have an emotional “baggage” attached to them, and it can be a lonely place especially among friends and family. However you can let that get to you and take your holidays away from you or you can embrace it face the reality of life and go get your groove back.
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The choice is yours alone, and it sounds like you’re ready to do something about it.
I found that donating my time at the local hospital to all of those that are lonely and sick during the holidays have rewards beyond self satisfaction. I love interacting with people and after I hear their life stories my life’s problems sound like mere inconveniences.

I wish you best of luck and my heart goes out to you. Just remember one thing you are the only one responsible for the way you feel.

Happy Halloween


You guys are saying everything I have thought. In fact - over the years I have told my children that we would volunteer during the holiday season and we never did it together. I think I will get involved in some volunteer work this holiday season. I tried to last year but the agencies I called said that didn't need any help - they needed donations! They were saying that donations are way down because of the economy so they didn't need any extra help! Hope I have better luck this year. I know that will take my mind off of my own issues.
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TiffanyDiamond wrote :

You guys are saying everything I have thought. In fact - over the years I have told my children that we would volunteer during the holiday season and we never did it together. I think I will get involved in some volunteer work this holiday season. I tried to last year but the agencies I called said that didn't need any help - they needed donations! They were saying that donations are way down because of the economy so they didn't need any extra help! Hope I have better luck this year. I know that will take my mind off of my own issues.
regarding volunteer work, you could try organizing a drive for donations if they don't need any extra hands.

for instance, if you have any particular talents you could teach a class on a donation basis (goods or money)

you can collect canned goods or grocery store gift cards from work and friends to donate to the local food bank- a friend of mine did this last year at work by baking a ton of cookies and muffins (she's a awesome baker) and leaving them in the work break room with a "tip" jar for donations which she then turned into one of the local charities here.

last year, i sent out a mass email to my friends and family that i exchange gifts with and requested that instead of gifts, i wanted gift cards to the grocery store and i would not be buying gifts, but matching the $ amount i collected. the whole lot i donated to the Jersey Shore Animal Center.

I have too much carp as it is and the shelter was really really grateful.
- October 21st, 2009, 05:16 am
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Hmm, well if you are interested I would be willing to contract my services to you for the holiday seasons. Prices vary depending on the services you would like to receive. lol

I have not even been able to see my family for Christmas in the past 4 years, this year will make it 5. So I feel ya.
- October 21st, 2009, 05:53 am
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I love Christmas, I like getting surprises for people and seeing their look when it's the right thing. At the same time, it's one of the loneliest times of the year for me. Out of my immediate family and some extended that come, I'm the only single person. Everyone is either married, have a bf/gf and/or kids. I got nada to bring. It's really downing. I haven't decorated my own place for holidays since I've been single...I just don't get into the spirit.

And this will be another year.
- October 21st, 2009, 11:53 am
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I know that most people want to be with family this time of year, but why not try something different? Do you have any single girlfriends? Why not plan a "single girls' getaway"? Hang out with other unattached women and have a great time together. I bet it would be loads of fun.
- October 21st, 2009, 04:42 pm
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