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Lying about height by an inch or two might be excusable... or about age by a year or two... but what about a match whose signature lie is this: 'My friends set up an eharmony account as a [Christmas/Valentine's Day/Birthday Gift] and I just found out last night. At first I was livid but then I saw your profile... I don't spend much time online... never gotten to know someone this way... blah blah blah'. Long story short, my girlfriends and I signed up for eharmony at the same time. 3 out of 5 of us were matched with the same guy over the course of a few months. Unfortunately, I was quite interested in him until, a few months later, he used the same introduction on a friend of mine. It did take us some time to figure it all out but by the time he got to the third friend, it was quite the party.
- October 27th, 2009, 06:57 am
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The same reason women lie about their weight, age, bust size, and number of relationships.
- October 28th, 2009, 08:07 am
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This is an issue I've run into before, as well (Re: men lying about their height). The guy seemed great. We seemed to have similar backgrounds, the same ethics and attitude about life. He was well educated, articulate, same taste in music. He painted a great picture-- his pictures showcased a somewhat muscular, handsome guy who claimed to be 5'11'' which is a preferred min. for me (I'm 5'6" and wear heels often). When I met him, he stood MAYBE 5'8" and was as thin as a RAIL. His personality and social skills were...odd to say the least. To top if off, his hairline was painted in with some kind of weird black powder/paint - I KID YOU NOT! I was dumbfounded on so many levels, I didn't know what to say.

I don't think it's right for men or women to blatantly lie about your weight or height, hair/weave, eye color, etc. I mean we could take it further and say that brunettes who dye their hair blonde are giving a false impression, too (I'm not blonde, I'm a dark-haired brunette but do occasionally highlight my hair) but there are enhancements and then there are flat out lies! I don't know... it's so frustrating to see these 'images' portrayed on eH b/c you know there's a good chance that someone is telling a huge lie. I wish there were a way to include a video in your profile so at least people could see you in a more dimensional light. It's not the fool-proof answer but it could help.
- October 28th, 2009, 09:07 pm
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Obviously, my darling, because they can't think of anything else to lie about, or they would....
But, while it makes him feel more dominant to seem tall, he misses the chance to meet some of the most interesting women, the taller ones. He also is inexperienced in bed. If he weren't, he would know that it doesn't matter about height, when you're both lying down.
- October 28th, 2009, 09:17 pm
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5'7", 145.
- October 28th, 2009, 11:42 pm
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Some people don't lie...they just create an 'alternate reality' Those are the toughest to deal with
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- October 29th, 2009, 12:34 pm
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Michael1974 wrote :
I am about 5'2 & 1/2" or 5'3" and I have no idea why any guy would lie about his height. The truth will be revealled eventually. When it comes to personal ads and talking to women online, I do not go out of my way to tell my height, but if I am ever asked, I always give an immediate and honest answer. Shorter guys know they will get turned down due to their small statures, but again, the truth will come out sooner or later and lying about it will only make matters worse.

I just responded to an ad that pretty much wanted to know if it was okay to lie about weight, height or age, which are three of the most common things people seem to lie about. Thing is, I don't really care about the age, weight, or height of a person, and I feel that dating sites should not even add these features so that people don't have to misrepresent themselves.

I didn't have a problem with the guy I went out with being the height he was, it appeared he believed me to be lying about my height, or he was uncomfortable with my height. Once this guy made my 5'5" height the topic of our first conversations, to the point where I took one shoe off to show my actual no heel wearing height, I had a problem with that. Maybe he thought his real height would be revealed, who knows, but again I don't really care about these shallow facts. If a person is self conscious about their height, weight, or age and puts it off on me as though I have a problem with it, then I have a problem with it. Hope this makes sense.
- October 29th, 2009, 02:15 pm
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stinkerbell wrote :
I agree, there isn't anything wrong with you for wanting to only date taller men.

Has anyone seen that show on Bravo called "Millionaire Matchmaker"? One episode had the Matchmaker with two male millionaires behind a one-way mirror as she interviewed prospective dates for each of the guys. One guy was black, and the other one very short. 5'4" I think. The girls, who were mostly white, were all asked if they would consider dating a black guy, and all were asked if they would consider dating a short guy. Every girl said that they would date a black guy, but only one (maybe two) said that she would date a short one.

I know what some of you are thinking: The editors only showed the girls who said they would date a black guy because they didn't want anyone to appear racist. BUT: The black guy commented that he was surprised that a man being short was more of a negative than being black. I found this VERY interesting, indeed.

That has to be the stupidest man ever!!! He would consider dating a black man a negative, and wow, the fact that a short man, and a black man are considered negatives. My god, no wonder I am single, I'm BLACK (born in Mozambique so SE African), Portuguese/Hawaiian, I look black, consider myself what people see when they look at me, and I am tall for a woman, no wonder I am single, too many negatives, and thanks, maybe that was this guys real problem. He mentioned height, but what he really meant was race. OMG!!

I am glad I don't spend time in front of stupid reality shows like that. I get the point that the show thought, would a woman rather date a "black man" or a "short man" Wow! They are both human right. I feel for the short black man out there, he might as well give it up in the dating pool according to the idiot on that show. Duh, I thought it was strange that most women rather date a black man? Its no wonder most of the men interested in me are not from this country too many stupid reality shows.
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Thonner wrote :
He also is inexperienced in bed. If he weren't, he would know that it doesn't matter about height, when you're both lying down.
So sexually experienced short men should show a woman he's interested in a video of how he is in bed? I don't know how else he can prove himself without her giving him a chance in bed.
- October 29th, 2009, 02:32 pm
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Hello ,
Speaking as a man, have you considered that there might be conflicting views on their height? , I know it might sound silly but what do you do if your told conflicting height differences?.
I am speaking from experience when I was told by numerious people, like:- Doctors, 2 different Hospitals, the Police (when i went to join),Army and one i did myself the heights are all different ranging from 5 foot 5 to 5 foot 9 inches, so which one are you supposed to believe?, and I've just been told this week by another hospital (whilst doing a pre-op) that im another height. All these profession always say that height charts they use are all the same, if they are ive been growing and srinking over the past 20 years.
I tend to go with the height that the Army told me i was,(5'9") as it makes me feel better within myself, but who knows what height i really am?.
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- October 30th, 2009, 01:17 am
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